Before getting into the top 5 tips for the best vulva play, you’ll need two things: a hand and a vagina. So, whether you’re by yourself or with a partner, these tips will take your female hand jobs to the next level.
#1 Use lube!
It is true that wetter is better, so grab some lube to increase slide and reduce friction. Just check the ingredients to make sure there are no nasty sugars in there that may cause a yeast infection. According to sexperts, using lube can make your hand job 100% better. Try the Lovehoney Enjoy Lubricant, which is super smooth, and its water-based formula means it can be used with all sex toys condoms.
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#2 Use a clitoral vibrator
Once you’re wet, an external vibrator will help to awaken all the external hotspots like your clitoris. This will encourage circulation, making you extra-sensitive, and will get the erectile tissue in your clitoris working, making it bigger and easier to find. Using lube and a clitoral vibrator will make your hand jobs 200% better. A vibrator, like the Magic Bullet, is perfect, as the tapered tip allows for pinpoint accuracy.
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#3 Use a dildo
Dildos are amazing for reaching internal hotspots that are much harder to get to with your hands, such as the G-spot, A-spot and C-Spot. Just make sure you warm up first using your fingers and use plenty of lube for the comfiest and most pleasurable experience. The combo of a dildo, a clit vibrator and lube can make your hand jobs 300% better. Give it a go with the G-spot dildo that’s angled to hit your G-spot, and has a suction base so you can go hands-free.
#4 Use a butt plug
Using a butt plug during masturbation can enhance sensations in a number of ways. Not only does it offer a secondary point of stimulation, which can enhance pleasure and speed up orgasms, but it’s a hands-free way to help angle your dildo towards your G-spot. If you can believe it, using a butt plug with a dildo, clit vibrator and lube can make your clitoris hand jobs 400% better! Start with a beginner’s butt plug that’s small and comfy to insert, but still packs a punch when it comes to anal stimulation.
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#5 Use nipple clamps
A lot of people neglect their nipple during masturbation, which is a shame because playing with nipples can produce oxytocin (a hormone that plays a big part in achieving orgasm). Simply, if you aren’t producing it, you aren’t going to orgasm. Not only do nipple clamps add sensation while you wear them, but when you take them off, you will get a rush of blood to the area that will make your nipples even more responsive to touch. The Tease Me nipple clamps are great for trying this out as they are fully adjustable and really easy to use.
This golden combination of lube, a clit vibrator, a dildo, with a butt plug and nipple clamps can make your hand jobs 500% better - or at the very least, can help to make your next solo or shared masturbation session the best yet.
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