Why Happy People Cheat

Why do people in happy relationships sometimes wind up cheating? According to relationship expert Esther Perel, the answer lies in self-exploration and has very little to do with the partner who is being cheated on.

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Instead of indicating that there’s some hole to be filled in the relationship – or in ourselves – affairs often mean that we’re looking for a different version of ourselves, says Perel, rather than just a different partner.

Cheating can often be a means of self-exploration, albeit one that’s very hurtful to our loved ones.

“I think what is important to understand is that it’s not always a problem in the relationship, or a problem in you,” says Perel. Check out the clip above for the full explanation, and stay tuned for more videos from Perel, including tips on how couples can heal in the aftermath of an affair.

Video credits

Narrated by: Esther Perel

Illustrated by: Natalia Ramos

Animated by: Daniel García

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