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So you didn't get the job — bummer. It stings but the process isn't over yet. Before you move on to the next potential gig, do these three things.
Respond With Gratitude
You're hurt, I get it, but now is not the time to get angry or hide in a corner to pout. After all, anything could still happen. Their top choice could back out, they could have a change of heart, or the employer might have another job opening soon. Your email response should be courteous and positive.
Thank you for letting me know about the [name of position/internship].
I understand your decision and appreciate the opportunity to interview for the job. Please keep me in mind for future opportunities, even in a freelance capacity. I respect the work you do at [name of company] and would like to contribute if possible.
(Optional: "I maintain a personal blog/website, where I post articles I find interesting and the latest on my career. Please check it out from time to time and see what I'm doing.")
All the best,
While it pains me to see this opportunity go, I want to thank you for getting back to me. I also want to thank you for taking the time to meet with me. It was such a pleasure to meet you and ___ and learn about the organisation. After spending the time talking with you and doing my research, I really do believe that the ___ industry is where I want to work. I know that I am not in a position to ask for favours, but if you have a moment to spare I would love any additional feedback. Please do not feel obligated to answer this question, but if there was something you noticed, it will help me in my job search and I would be most appreciative. I hope everything works out with you and your new intern.
As you can see, the key is to avoid burning any bridges while also leaving a positive impression with the employer. You never know what might happen. This can ensure they will hold onto your resume for future positions.
Write a Thank You Note
It's best to look at your rejection as an opportunity. That's why online job search expert Susan P. Joyce recommends you write a thank you note to everyone who interviewed you, including the hiring manager, the recruiter, and anyone else involved in the process.
Joyce suggests your note contain several simple but essential elements. Thank them for letting you know the outcome, thank them for their time and consideration, show appreciation for the opportunity to learn about their organisation, express your disappointment and continued interest in working there, and lastly, ask them to get in touch with you the next time there's an opening. It shouldn't be more than a few sentences. Joyce says thank you notes are rare, so they will really make you stand out, and might even bump you up on the "almost-hired" list. If something happens to the top pick, you could be next in line. At the very least, the thank you note gives you a chance to build out your network.
You should only send a thank you note if you still want to be a part of the organisation, however. If you weren't feeling a spark during your interviews, your email response is good enough.
Don't Be too Hard on Yourself
Once you reach out and maintain those bridges, it's time for some self care. It's easy to get down on yourself when you're rejected for a job, but it's important to keep a positive outlook. The more you let a rejection get you down, the more it will hurt your confidence the next time you go in for a job interview.
Remember, a job rejection isn't a failure. It's simply you not being the missing piece that fits that employer's puzzle at this point in time. There's a good chance their choice had nothing to do with you and everything to do with some details you had zero control over. Don't over-analyse the outcome. Let it go and get ready for the next job possibility.