You ever wonder how people who never give up get the strength to do it? How do they keep going when everything is against them? Turns out, it the people they surround themselves with might be a big part of their resilience.
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As writer Nathan Kontny explains over on Quartz, the idea that certain people just have an unassailable willpower that most of us can never match is a bit of a myth. In fact, most people — even very tough ones! — will flounder if you cut them off from a supportive community. If you really want to cultivate that “never say die” mentality, then, you need a group of people who will encourage that kind of mindset. Which means asking for help:
Finally, don’t be afraid to be honest with all of those connections and actually ask them for help. Too many of us, especially those of us who run businesses, suffer in isolation. We tend to hide hard times from friends and people who could help. That’s because challenges can feel a lot like failure.
We often act like being an emotional island and toughing your way through problems is an admirable trait, but in reality it usually just leads to more mistakes and lost productivity. Relying on others around you for help not only props you up, but it helps everyone keep going when it’s easy to give up.