The Crazy Things We Do In Our Sleep (And How To Treat Them)

The Crazy Things We Do In Our Sleep (And How To Treat Them)

Do you know what you’re doing while you’re asleep? If you’re like millions of other people, you could be talking, walking, or even having sex in your sleep. Here are some of the crazy things we do when we’re asleep and what you can do about them.

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We’ve all heard of people who sleepwalk or sleeptalk, but what about sleep driving? Or sleep eating? They’re both very real conditions. Some people even get into fistfights with their partners while they sleep. A British actor, recently convicted of rape, tried to use another real medical condition, sexsomnia, as a defence in his case. The jury didn’t buy it, but the condition itself is actually real.

In this post, we’ll walk through some of these sleep conditions and some potential treatments that might help you get a better night’s rest. We spoke to Dr Nitun Verma, who is a specialist in sleep medicine and Medical Director of the Washington Township Center for Sleep Disorders in Fremont.

The Disorders that Rob You of a Good Night’s Sleep


We’ve discussed some common sleep conditions like snoring, insomnia and sleep apnea, but when it comes to those “strange things people do in their sleep”, there are two types of conditions: REM behaviour disorder and parasomnias. Picture: Helder Almeida/Shutterstock


Parasomnias are a class of disorders that include most of the strange behaviours you already know. Sleepwalking, talking in your sleep (also known as somniloquy), sleep eating and sexsomina are all parasomnias. According to Dr Verma, they normally take place in the first half of the night, an effect of disrupted slow wave sleep. Not all parasomnias result in people getting up and moving around. Some people experience night terrors that can lead to shouting or flailing about in bed, experience restless leg syndrome or hear loud noises that no one else can hear. Here are a few examples:

I heard about one patient who, after getting the wrong sleep medication, sleep drove to Taco Bell, ate a ton of burritos, then returned home to bed. He didn’t remember any of it but put the pieces together when he found hot sauce packets all over himself. Textbook sleepwalking, which is a parasomnia.

I remember another patient who is a high profile professor at a prestigious university. He suffered from exploding head syndrome, where he would hear a violent explosion in his head just as he started to fall asleep. Frightened since he thought he was having an aneurysm or stroke, he went to the ER, but everything up normal. Since it happened every day and he couldn’t sleep, he quit his tenure job. After seeing many neurologists, he came to me. A targeted low dose of an appropriate medication fixed his sleep, and he went back to his job after three months.

With parasomnias, the sufferer will likely never remember or know about their condition until someone tells them or they find evidence of their activity. A person who talks in their sleep may never know they have a problem until they share a bed with someone who has the dubious pleasure of hearing their midnight speeches.

REM Behaviour Disorder

REM behaviour disorder (RBD), as the name implies, takes place later in the night during the phases of sleep where rapid eye movement occurs. People who suffer from RBDs usually “act out dreams” and remember the dream they were acting out, although they may not understand what happened when they first wake up. In the dream, their action may be completely justified, but to an outside observer, their actions may be completely meaningless or random. Dr Verma offers an example:

A father was arrested when he dreamt his house was on fire and he ‘saved’ his newborn baby by throwing him out the window to firefighters below to catch. The trouble was there was no fire, no firefighters, but he did throw the baby out the window (the baby was OK). This is a classic REM behaviour disorder.

Another example comes from comedian Mike Birbiglia, who appeared on This American Life and explained his struggle with RBD and how he used to stand on the bed in the middle of the night thinking there was a jackal in the room he needed to fight off. The video here is actually the trailer to his movie, Sleepwalk With Me, a comedy that deals with the issue.

Treat Sleep Disorders with Good Sleep Hygiene


Since parasomnias range from sleep driving to simply talking in your sleep, treatments vary. People who grind their teeth may get a mouth guard, but people with night terrors may need therapy. People who suddenly start fighting the person next to them in bed because they’re dreaming that there’s an intruder should not hesitate to see a doctor who specialises in sleep medicine. In many cases, there’s medication (ranging from prescription clonazepam to over-the-counter melatonin) that can help you stay comfortably asleep at night. Dr Verma reminds us that If you can’t see a doctor for some reason or your condition is mild, upgrading your sleep rituals and habits may be the key to a better night’s rest for everyone involved:

Think of the brain with many parts that don’t sleep and wake in unison. So if the part of the brain that controls the legs wakes before the rest, there is a risk of sleepwalking. So while the perfect fix would be helping all the parts of the brain wake and sleep in unison, we don’t really know how to do that. So what we focus on (and readers can do by themselves) is their sleep hygiene. It results in less awakenings at night, which means less chance of parasomnias.

  • Relax before bed. Making time for a little meditation or even just some quiet time to de-stress from the busy day can work wonders and lead to a deeper, fuller night’s sleep with fewer interruptions. Picture: Sarah G.
  • Get regular exercise. While it’s not a direct relationship between exercise and sleep disorders, regular exercise does improve the quality of your sleep and can lead to fewer arousals overnight, which, in theory, should keep you sleeping deeply longer.
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    Cut back on screen time before bed. We’ve said this before a few times, but study after study all point to the notion that electronic devices mess with our sleep cycles. If you’re an otherwise normal sleeper, you may be able to muddle through this, but if you have a sleep disorder like a parasomnia, maintaining a solid, healthy sleep cycle is imperative. Turn off the screens at least two hours before bed, Dr Verma recommends, or at least don’t let the last thing you see before you close your eyes be your smartphone or tablet. Don’t worry, it will be there when you wake up. While you’re at it, put it on silent so it doesn’t wake you up in the middle of the night. Picture: Miramiska
  • Cut back on alcohol, caffeine and cigarettes. All three can seriously disrupt your sleep cycles, especially alcohol and caffeine. This study compared the effects of all three, and for someone with a serious sleep disorder, eliminating these — at least in the hours before sleep — will be one of the first things your doctor asks you do to.
  • Tweak your bedroom for optimal sleep. Heavy, light-blocking curtains, soft surfaces and a comfortable bed will do a lot to improve your overall quality of sleep, which will in turn help you beat back some of these disorders, especially when they’re mild. A deeper, more restful sleeper is usually one who doesn’t talk in his sleep, for example.

For more sleep hygiene tips, check out our guide to getting better sleep. Better sleep hygiene can go a long way, but it shouldn’t stop you from seeking the help of an expert on the matter even if you think your condition is mild. Sometimes the solution may be behavioural or as simple as a melatonin supplement before bed.

How to Help Someone with a Sleep Disorder


So far, we’ve discussed what to do if you’re the person suffering from an RBD or a parasomnia. If you’re the person sleeping next to someone who talks in their sleep or sleepwalks, Dr Verma explains the best thing you can do is treat them with a gentle hand:

Roommate sleepwalking? Gently guide them back to their bedroom. If they are going for a knife, intervene aggressively! If they already have the knife, run aggressively! The reason people say “don’t wake the sleepwalker” is because since they aren’t fully alert, they may respond aggressively to you. I have never done restraints, because they will hurt themselves with those too.

For mild occasional sleepwalking, take precautions: place heavy curtains on windows (so you don’t cut your self if jumping out), install an alarm on your doors, sleep on the floor, sleep on the first floor of the house, hide any keys or knives.

Trying to restrain someone who sleepwalks is usually counterproductive. A sleepwalking person may struggle so hard against their restraints that they injure themselves, or if the restraints are part of their dream, they may ignore pain to break free. Putting the snacks on the top shelf will just make the sleep eater try to get to the top shelf and potentially hurt themselves. Instead, gently guide the sleepwalker back to bed and help them get comfortable. Picture: auremar/Shutterstock

Speak softly to them and don’t try to wake them from their slumber. The reason people say you shouldn’t wake a sleepwalker is because when we wake up we’re naturally disoriented as we move from unconsciousness to consciousness. What may be clear as day while we’re asleep is difficult to comprehend as we wake up, and a sleepwalker who wakes mid-stroll may be confused, disoriented or frightened. They may even react violently out of fear. A sleep driver on the other hand should be urged to pull over as soon as possible — call the police to find and escort the vehicle if possible, and hide the car keys next time.

People do some really crazy things while they’re asleep. Unfortunately, we just don’t understand enough how the brain works to really pinpoint why and how to stop it proactively before symptoms manifest. That doesn’t mean that there’s nothing you can do though. In some cases, getting into a healthy relationship with sleep is the best way to ease sleep disorders and feel more rested in the morning. For serious conditions, or mild ones that persist no matter what you do, never hesitate to see an expert.

Dr Nitun Verma, MD, is a specialist in sleep medicine. He is the Medical Director of the Washington Township Center for Sleep Disorders in Fremont. He has offered his tips for better sleep here before, and he graciously volunteered his expertise for this piece as well. You can follow him on Twitter at @nitunverma.


  • No matter what time I go to bed, I always wake up earlier than I need to, regardless of alarms. The earlier I go to bed, the earlier I wake up, always tired and short on sleep. What do you call that?

  • @jacrench, if this is causing a disruption in your Activities of Daily Living, then you should seek professional, medical assistance.

    Go to your GP and get a referral to a sleep specialist. First your GP may trial you on a course of mild hypnotics – so called Z- compunds – to try and reset your bodyclock.

    Simple things however may assist. Try using a sleep mask, ear plugs, or this:

    I swear by this when I’m working overnights in ED or doing night shifts.

    Don’t think that sleep is something to laugh off. Current research is showing strong links to increased cardiovascular, cerebovascular, type 2 diabetes and uncontrolled weight gain diseases.

    @imahippy. YOU’re a frickkin retard. Insensitive, uncalled for and utterly unintelligent. ESPECIALLY as it’s DOWNS SYNDROME AWARENESS DAY, you little micosmal turd. Go crawl under a rock where you belong you devolved pond-slime. I hope someone puts Baygon in your bong water and giggles as you light up.

    • Ah thanks for a proper response 🙂
      It’s definitely something I need to look into, the short on sleep factor makes it hard for me to get through a work day productively. By lunch time I’ve lost all my energy and just about fall asleep at my desk.
      By the time I get home, I’m ready for bed (though I can’t actually waste time, I usually still have things to do…), so I’ll go to bed an hour or 2 earlier for the sake of ‘catching up’ on sleep, but that never works.
      Thankfully I’ve got some time off coming up, so at least I can catch up on my work.

      • As a MEDICAL doctor (and a PhD), I would SERIOUSLY advise you to seek attention. If you’re in such a tired state, I would also advise you NOT to operate heavy machinery –> that ESPECIALLY means driving.

        My profession is unfortunately rife with tales of sleep-deprived interns who have killed themselves (and others) whilst driving home from a long overnight shift.

        Lifehacker has actually run a few good articles on Sleep Hygiene. Routine helps (I know by my simple LACK of routine… yes, smoking bad, I smoke occasionally… *sigh* Ditto Maccas).

        As I said, a GP will probably give you Hypnotic class agents to help you GET INTO THE ROUTINE. So, eat, surf the web, duct-tape the kids to their bed, relax. Lights out and quiet for 20mins. If you’re on pills, take them at a REGIMENTED hour. Put a recurrent alarm on it and STICK TO IT.

        Unfortunately one of the worst culprits for lack of sleep hygiene can be your partner, kids and pets jumping on beds. You may have to consider a separate bed/cot for your own health. Serious.

        Another is dependency on alcohol and hypnotic medication >7days. Alcohol interferes with sleep pathways, so you may pass out but you’ve inhibited your ability to get to REM/L4 sleep. Hypnotics when abused do the same.

        As for sleeping “earlier,” you may actually do yourself a DIS-service, as you’re disrupting your sleeping patterns. Our brains are primitive and thrive on cycles. Cycles = routine.

        Other things that DO work; vigorous exercise. If you’re capable, get to a nice workout hitting 80% of your maximal heart rate for at least 30min. (Max HR is 200-age).

        @kendal You are a brave person. Night terrors are no laughing phenomenon. I hope you’re under the care of a sleep physician / psychiatrist. If you haven’t had a consult, please do as there have been quite a few recent advances in this area. I hope you gain some control and relief for your condition in the future.

    • Wow. They shouldn’t have joked about Down Syndrome. It really is not okay to do.
      But in calling them out you really used the word retard? Also not okay, really not.

      • I actually had a slew of much more choice adjectives for him, however I decided to save it. Utilizing the proper form – mentally retarded – would have confused the subject I believe.

  • As someone with diagnosed and treated sleep apnea, I would also strongly recommend anyone that snores, and also stops breathing (according to your partner) gets urgent sleep testing too. In my case it also sent me down a parallel path of deep clinical depression due to lack of good sleep. All fixed now though!

    The dream police are also out tonight! ; )

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