psychology

social undermining

How to Deal With People Who Undermine Everything You Do

Years ago, a friend introduced me to someone who asked what I did for a living. “I work on an online video series,” I said. It was hard work, it required lots of planning, researching and interviewing, and it was how I paid the bills. My friend chimed in, “She’s…

Why It Feels So Good To Cancel Plans Last Minute, And How To Stop

Why It Feels So Good To Cancel Plans Last Minute, And How To Stop

There’s something magical about cancelling plans last minute – yes, I’ve heard the John Mulaney joke. You instantly get to do whatever you want and not feel beholden to anyone. True freedom is only a shameful text away. But flaking out is a slippery slope that can lead to a…