Getting married is one of the biggest life decisions you'll ever make - especially if you're determined to stick it out through thick and thin. According to relationship psychologist and author Eli Finkel, it's important to assess long-term compatibility before tying the knot. These are the questions you should be asking.
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On the latest episode of Lifehacker's podcast The Upgrade, psychologist and science journalist Daniel Goleman talked about self-control (what he called "cognitive control") and its importance as a skill we should all learn as early as possible.
The human body is marvellous. If you know how to harness its built-in superpowers, you can do so much more than you are right now. Use these small tricks to become a more efficient worker.
Making conversation seems easy enough on the surface. You talk and they talk back, right? But then you find yourself in one of those awkward situations where you're just staring at someone you barely know and you have to figure out how to keep the conversation interesting. Here are the most common mistakes we all make and how to avoid them.
It may seem like some people are born likable, but everyone is capable of developing charisma. No matter what your personality, there are certain traits you can practise and apply to your own behaviour that can make you seem more magnetic, trustworthy and influential. Here are the basics to developing charisma.
The secret to happiness isn't keeping your head stuffed with rainbows and unicorns all the time, according to a new study. It's leaning into emotions -- even so-called negative ones -- that line up with your values. If you can figure out what you most want to feel, and revel in those feelings when they arrive, you'll be better off.
"Failure" is a major buzzword in parenting today: In order to raise successful, resilient kids, we need to let them fail. If your kid forgets his homework or his sports uniform at home, don't bring it to him. If she's struggling with building a block tower or, later on, an essay, or even later on (heaven forbid), getting to her first job on time, don't step in. Only by struggling, and sometimes failing, do kids learn exactly what they must do to succeed.
I was nervous on the day of my year 10 formal. It was important that I looked perfect. Unlike most other fifteen year olds, my jitters extended beyond the desire for peer acceptance and getting kissed by a cute boy. I was meeting my father for the first time, and I desperately needed it to go well. I wanted him to take one look at me and immediately regret his lifelong absence.
I'm typically the queen of procrastination. If something doesn't have to be done until next week, then I'm more than likely not going to start it until the day before it needs to get done, regardless of whether or not I have plenty of time to complete it between now and then. As I've gotten older I've gotten better with the whole procrastination thing, but it's still a problem. Now researchers think they have found have a solution: visualising your successful future self.
Mistakes. They're a thing. It's in our nature to address what's immediately wrong and once the fire is out, work to prevent said error from occurring again. But even this final step might not be enough -- always use a mistake as a chance to step back and take a more general look at your behaviour, mindset and processes.