It's hard to really put ourselves out there if we feel like everyone's judging us. Recognising this fear, and overcoming it, is essential to reach our potential and learn new skills.
Lori Eschene at Tiny Buddha recounted feeling this way as she performed a song for her singing instructor.
"...he looked right at me while I sang On My Own from Les Miserables -- a vastly different experience than singing in the shower, or at a karaoke bar after a couple of drinks—and he even took notes, since his hands were free."
"I felt like my vocal cords were gripped in a vice. The experience of singing, while sitting alone, with someone I just met staring at me, made me feel far more vulnerable than I ever feel when I press publish here."
But then, Lori convinced herself that her coach was on her side, and was then able to let loose and improve as a singer. Sometimes it's easy to feel like our friends and coworkers are judging us, especially when we're trying something new. Hard as it can be, Lori encourages her readers to train themselves to assume that most people around them are supportive, rather than judgemental or vitriolic. Believing that everyone is on our side it makes it much easier to step outside our comfort zone and learn something new.
Tiny Steps To Overcome The Fear Of Judgement [Tiny Buddha]