We could all get better at conversing with our fellow humans. It’s just so easy these days to hide behind our screens, and when we’re finally face to face with actual people, we’re often talking too much and not listening enough. How can we make the most of those one-on-one, face-to-face, in-real-life moments?
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Secrets plague us all. In this episode of The Upgrade, Seth Stephens-Davidowitz, author of Everybody Lies: Big Data, New Data, and What the Internet Can Tell Us About Who We Really Are explains what the internet can tell us about the prejudices, fears and fetishes we’re hiding.
We also talk with our Lifehacker writers about a Reddit thread where Redditors shared secrets that, if revealed, would ruin people’s lives. Psychiatrist Eileen Wachter visits the studio to discuss the psychological effects of keeping secrets. And our producer takes to the streets to find out what sort of secrets we’ve been keeping for other people.
This week we chatted with Samantha Irby, comedian, writer, mastermind behind the blog Bitches Gotta Eat, and author of the collection of essays We Are Never Meeting in Real Life, as well as the collection Meaty. We crowned her as the voice of her generation, talked marriage and The Bachelorette, and found out why she dedicated her book to Klonopin.
Anne Lamott is a progressive political activist and writer, the bestselling author of such books as Bird by Bird, Travelling Mercies, Operating Instructions, Plan B, and her latest, Almost Everything: Notes on Hope. We’re such fans of Anne Lamott that we’ve decided to devote an entire episode of The Upgrade to her.
We talk to Anne about almost everything, including but not limited to how to deal with the news cycle, having compassion for our small upsets in the face of large tragedies, how help can be a form of control, comparing our insides to other people’s outsides, and the horrors of visiting the DMV.
There are so many different ways to be a jerk: From being a schoolyard bully, to not mowing your lawn, to using plastic straws, to being a jerk on the road. In this episode, we’re going to talk about some of the little ways we can be good to one another, to the environment and, by extension, to ourselves.
It's the long weekend, which means that many of us will find ourselves elbow to elbow with family members, some of whom may have wildly differing opinions on topics such as whether the lamb is done yet, and who should be prime minister. Before things get too heated, we recommend listening to this episode.
It’s our first live recording of the Upgrade, performed in front of an audience at the Bell House in Brooklyn, NY. Joining us are comedians Chris Gethard (Lose Well, “The Chris Gethard Show”) and Akilah Hughes (“It’s Akilah, Obviously”), as well as Brittany Luse and Eric Eddings of Gimlet Media’s podcast “The Nod.” We talk about how you can’t succeed without failure, and how to move past even the most embarrassing of screw-ups.
Plus: we play a few rounds of Never Have I Ever (Upgrade-style) and a new game we’re calling “Lifehacker Saves Your Life.” It was a lot of fun.
Buying presents can be… stressful. It’s often hard to know what to buy for that film buff friend, or for the brother-in-law who’s really into cooking these days. Fortunately, The Upgrade is here to help—just think of this episode as our gift to you. Here, seven Lifehacker staffers each share three perfect gift ideas, from artful prints to wireless gadgets to Secret Santa hacks, to help you buy the perfect present.
How do we even begin to find true love in a messy world of online dating, ghosting, and benching? Matchmaker Dr. Frankie Bashan tells us why people are using real-live intermediaries like herself to get dates. Etiquette expert Daniel Post Senning takes on the intricacies of Tinder etiquette.
And Lifehacker’s food editor Claire Lower mixes up a sexy three-ingredient cocktail.
You know those days: You wake up in a dark mood, sure that everything is terrible and doom is imminent. And then you have a conversation, or read a book, or hear a song, or have some experience that changes your mood entirely. Your perspective has shifted. That’s what we’ll be talking about in this episode with David Burns, MD.
This week we chat with Les Stroud, the creator and star of the hit TV series Survivorman. Alice and staff writer Nick Douglas talk with Les about just how one becomes an expert in surviving, as well as the one aspect of survival that he finds nearly impossible to endure.
We’re also joined by our old friend, divorce attorney James J. Sexton. James tells us the five steps to developing a thick skin — emotionally, that is. Plus, a new segment!