relationships

How To Have A Social Life If You Don't Work A 9-To-5 Job

If you work a job that is outside the traditional 9-to-5 schedule, it can be challenging to maintain current relationships and create new ones. Here are some steps to take to keep a thriving social life despite your work.


Define An Emotional Intention To Make Difficult Conversations Easier

Confronting someone about a problem or concern is hard from the start. However, if you come at it from a standpoint of venting your own emotions, it will just get harder. Before you have the talk, define the emotional goal you want the conversation to end with.


Get Rid Of The 'Positive Posse' To Find Better Feedback

It’s only natural to want to surround yourself with people who believe in you. If you only allow people with positive things to say to get close, however, can result in choosing your friends based on how they make you feel, rather than ones who challenge you to improve.


A Sex Therapist Explains How To Communicate Better In The Bedroom [NSFW]

Talking about sex isn’t easy for most people, even with a partner you love. You probably feel uncomfortable openly discussing problems in the bedroom, which is why Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist, is here to help.


Ask For Clarification On What Was Said Before Taking Offence

Even your closest friend might say something that offends you. Whether you think it was unintentionally insensitive or a bluntly phrased form of feedback, you should ask for clarification on what your friend really meant to say. Otherwise, if you leave the incident hanging in the air, you might grow to resent your friend.


Ask LH: How Can I Persuade My Partner To Stop Ironing?

Dear Lifehacker, I hate ironing, and my wife insists on ironing my work shirts for me. She does a great job, but it can sometimes take ages for her to get around to it, so I have to iron the odd one here or there to get through. I really want to start taking my shirts to a dry cleaner and get them laundered and pressed, but I don’t want to hurt her feelings. What should I do?


Plan Your Date Around A Conversation-Sparking Activity

It can be tricky to pick a great date activity — especially if it’s a first date. For a deeper connection, aim for an event that gives you and your date plenty to talk about.


Tell A Relatable Story To Explain Someone's Mistakes

Whether it’s the sandwich method of criticism, direct criticism or persuasion methods, there are plenty of strategies you can use to convince someone to change their ways. Tell someone a relatable, convincing story to get them to see the consequences of their actions.


Create A Couple's 'Memory Jar' To Cope With Bad Times

Every relationship has good times and bad times. When we’re in the bad times, we forget or ignore the good times. Creating a couple’s memory jar preserves those positive memories.


Focus On Your Apology, Not Your Reason, To Express Yourself Clearly

Communicating clearly is crucial when you’re apologising, especially if you want to make your perspective heard too. If your apology has a “but” in it, consider switching the parts before and after the “but”. This will put the focus on your apology, instead of the reason for your behaviour.