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If you’ve ever been the new person in an office, chances are you’ve done the dreaded introductory lap where your manager drags you from cubicle to cubicle to meet a sea of strangers. In these circumstances, you rarely remember their names or what they actually do, making for awkward conversations in the office kitchen. Here’s a way to make the whole process a little less painful.
A constant need for validation. A willingness to control people. A ruthlessness in getting their needs met. These are just some of the psychological traits that point towards a narcissistic personality disorder. Disturbingly, they are also common among people who succeed in business — and it usually isn’t a coincidence. Here are 15 signs of narcissism combed from psychology literature that you really don’t want to encounter in a boss or co-worker.
Years ago, a friend introduced me to someone who asked what I did for a living. “I work on an online video series,” I said. It was hard work, it required lots of planning, researching and interviewing, and it was how I paid the bills. My friend chimed in, “She’s a vlogger,” then giggled. I didn’t quite understand what she meant, but I felt diminished.
Random tidbits, factoids and conversation points pulled from the latest broadcast of NPR have always been my conversation fuel. But this stuff can turn you into an insufferable intellectual know-it-all if you’re not careful, and that makes people not want to talk you. Here’s how I’ve learned to rein that in.
Most people don’t really enjoy small talk, because it’s tedious, feels draining and can give you a case of acute onset imposter syndrome. That may just be because we don’t realise small talk’s true function: it’s not about substance. It’s about making a connection.