Breakups suck no matter what time of year they happen, but they're particularly rough during the holidays. While everyone is celebrating, you're struggling with loneliness and heartbreak. Whether you were on the giving or receiving end of a breakup, here's how to cope with the loss during the holidays.
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When someone close to you has something terrible or sad happen to them, it's tough to know exactly what to do or say. The keys are to be specific, don't dismiss or gloss over what's happening, and always keep an open ear. Here's what we mean.
In the dating world there's a looming presence that haunts us all: Ghosting. I've watched friends get ghosted, been ghosted on and I've even been the ghost many times. But I decided to stop. Not just because I realised how impolite I was being, but because I also saw that vanishing into the ether was actually a disservice to myself.
If you want to build trust or just practice being more charismatic, it helps to ask questions. Questions show the other person you're listening and interested. However, if you really want to get to know someone, you have to ask questions that actually matter.
We know emotional intelligence is important. It helps us empathise with other people so we communicate better and fight less. It helps us understand our own actions so we can be more productive and less reactionary. It's not always easy, though, and this video from the School of Life explains how it can go wrong.
Most people would agree choosing “the right” partner is fairly important, and a bad selection in this area can be devastating. Most people want to attract a partner, and this involves a combination of self-promotion, and taking down the competition in order to appear to be “the right” partner. Some of our efforts are conscious and some are unconscious.
Small talk should be about making connections and having conversations that go beyond "Hi, how're you?" Getting beyond those default starters can be tough, so here are seven tips that can help you have more engaging conversations with anyone.
Your first impression counts for a heck of a lot. When you're meeting someone for the first time, focus on the four "social gifts" you bring to the table to make your impression a good one.
You know how important it is to break out of your comfort zone, say yes more often and allow yourself to be vulnerable. But what if that vulnerability makes you so anxious you find it hard to function? The key is learning to embrace vulnerability without allowing it to take over.
Apologies should be pretty straightforward. You screwed up, you feel bad, you express your remorse. But we're human, and humans are complicated. Many times, we apologise for the wrong reasons.
One of the greatest challenges for people attempting to adopt or maintain a life of financial responsibility is the presence of financially irresponsible people in their lives. You have people who leverage social pressure to convince you to make bad spending choices or adopt bad financial habits. You have people who leverage their relationship with you in order to convince you to give them money. You have people who will ask to borrow money and never repay it. You might even have people who will directly access your funds and use them for unwanted things.
When someone asks you for advice, it can be hard to tell if they actually want your help or if they just want someone to vent to. Before you offer your words of wisdom, ask them this question first.