A Simple Approach To Fixing Your Crappy Self-Esteem

A Simple Approach To Fixing Your Crappy Self-Esteem

Happiness isn’t a given, and it’s often an elusive emotion because we don’t always love the person we are. If you’ve got a problem with low self-esteem, Redditor kablamy offers up a simple solution:

Photo by Diego Cervo (Shutterstock).

Do things to fix the things about yourself that you don’t like. Don’t feel smart enough? Read more, discuss intellectual things, practice memorizing things and mental maths. Don’t feel like you look good enough? Work out, dress well, find a hair style that works for you. Ask for advice or find out how to do it via the internet if you don’t know how. You have bad self-esteem because you’re not satisfied with who you are. Take steps to become the person you want to be.

This is easier said than done but it does provide a concrete method for boosting your self-esteem. It may be a long and difficult road, so be sure you stay motivated and never succumb to procrastination. Accomplishments are key when you want to feel good about yourself, especially when they’re part of the process of becoming the person you want to be.

How do I fix my shitty self-esteem? [Reddit]


  • “You have bad self-esteem because you’re not satisfied with who you are. Take steps to become the person you want to be.”

    Good concrete advice, but overly simplistic. The problem is the first claim. There are many more reasons for low self-esteeem (including being surrounded by assholes).

  • When you’re down, just remember, there’s one thing that you’re better than anyone else in the world at. If it was an Olympic event, you’d win, and even a trained professional wouldn’t be as good as you. Reading your own handwriting.

  • “You have bad self-esteem because you’re not satisfied with who you are. Take steps to become the person you want to be.”
    The problem with low self-esteem often is that you believe you’re so incompetent, that there’s no point trying to improve yourself because you’ll fail.

  • My low self esteem comes from no one I love, caring about me much at all, back. I can’t look much better than I do, due to physical features, unless I get a boatload of surgery (even then, I risk a Michael Jackson outcome). I’ve had 6 makeovers, and in all of them I look older and IMHO hideous. And I can’t be a fun party animal due to bad asthma and chest infections happening when I encounter tobacco, which limits my ability to go out and be anywhere among people. And I’m a sport and craft klutz. I’ve tried to get better in the coordination department, but all 2 years of practice got me was more frustration at not really getting better at it. Things I can improve, are things that don’t seem to matter, because I’m a woman looking for a man — largely around brain stuff. I’ve tried to change my opinion of who to love, to something more in line with the people who are interested in me, but as a 42-year-old, I just have a hard time getting interested in 58-to-62-year-old men readying for retirement, with grandkids, who want to be dependent on me for housework and income, when I’d still like to have or adopt my first child, and/or progress a lot more in my career before retirement. It makes matters worse that 90% of them use tobacco and other burnt substances, which immediately crosses them off my list for health reasons of my own. That I am apparently unlovable by any but this segment of the population has over time gotten quite damaging to my self-esteem. It didn’t start out being an issue, but after 20 years of looking for Mr. Right and having only near or actual pensioners chasing me the past few years, it’s now an issue.

  • Am I reading LifeHacker, or ehow? This has to be one of the most useless posts I’ve ever read! What’s next, “tips on connecting your computer up” “Plug it in”???

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