Conservative estimates suggest that cheating occurs in about half of all relationships. Being cheated on can be a profoundly painful experience, and it can be hard to know what to do after the initial discovery. Here's a comprehensive, mapped-out guide to deciding whether to stay or go.
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Have you ever heard of emotional labour? The concept has been around since the sociologist Arlie Hochschild defined the term in 1983. It's essentially the work that we do, either professionally or personally, to regulate and present our emotions in a socially acceptable way — and to care for the emotional well-being of others. An epic thread on Metafilter about emotional labour touched on the kinds of things that people (often women) are expected to do to maintain relationships: Make nice holidays and meals, shop for appropriate gifts for their families and often their partners' families, and — here's the kicker — send birthday cards.
Are you about to break up with someone? Or worried you'll be on the receiving end? Modern philosopher Alain de Botton's Youtube channel, The School of Life, has gone through some of the typical relationship death throes before settling on one major tip that benefits those who mightn't have seen it coming: Be a dick.
Often sadly overlooked in the box of toys for bigger, shinier offerings, the blindfold is actually a surprisingly sexy bedroom must-have. Whether you’re a bondage aficionado who’s bypassed the blindfold, or a sex toy newbie who’s yet to make their first foray into the seductive world of bondage play, the blindfold can offer a world of new sensations and sexual enjoyment. It's time to open your eyes to the benefits.
While for many people the idea of bondage conjures up images of a man or woman chained to a bedpost, possibly by some fluffy pink handcuffs, bondage is about a lot more than that. Though the aspect of being tied up - or doing the tying - is a big, and fun part of bondage, there is a lot more to explore.
Whether you want to pull parts of the body together, spread other parts, secure one limb to another or the entire body to an object, there are ways and means to do so in the most thrilling of ways.
If all you know about male sex toys is the plastic blow-up dolls tailing around after riotous bachelor parties, it’s no surprise you wouldn't be that interested in them. But male sex toys have come a long way since the days of plastic dolls (though, they’re certainly around in abundance if that is your thing) and there are now some incredibly innovative and exciting toys on the market.
With different designs for pleasure during solo play, foreplay and sex, there are tons of exciting toys to choose from. Many can be used in a variety of scenarios so it all depends on the type of pleasure you’re looking for. Here’s a look into some of the most popular.
If you've ever considered sharing your every move with a significant other, you probably have an opinion about location-sharing apps. "This is great! I'll always know where they are!" is one opinion. "This is creepy! I'm not trying to stalk someone I could easily talk to instead!" is another. I'm of that second opinion.
Anyone who's ever had to defuse a tense work meeting or even a stressful Christmas dinner knows that sometimes thoughtful de-escalation is the best (and often only) way to get what you want. But some of us have hot tempers, or a tendency to bluster, or are simply ignorant about how to manage conflict — whether it's at a family event, a work meeting, or on the global diplomatic stage.
So you've started dating someone new and learning all sorts of new things about them: where they grew up, what their hopes and dreams are, how they feel about the latest season of GoT, the list goes on. The only thing you're totally in the dark about is their financial situation — and it seems awkward to ask.
A few months ago, I wrote an article for men who struggle with orgasm. (You can check that article out here.) Today, I'm back to share my advice for women. If you're ready to have your first orgasm, or learn how to orgasm with a partner, here's your game-plan.
Talking about sex with friends is a double-edged sword. On the one hand, being able to be open and honest about sex is critical to developing a healthy relationship with your sexuality. And sometimes you just need advice from your friends. On the other hand, your sex life is usually something you have in common with a partner a, and they don't get a say in what you reveal to your pals. When you think about one of your partners sharing information about you it makes you think twice about divulging all the juicy details to your friends, right?
At some point, most of us have tried to use a chore chart or wheel, or maybe just a list, to get our partners and housemates and families to do their share of the tasks that keep our homes running. But we also know the sinking feeling of seeing the dishes pile up — and then rolling up our sleeves to do it ourselves. Well, maybe the reason you're stuck doing all the chores is because you're using one chart. When really, you need two.
Dear Lovehacker, For a bit of context I'm a university student and I ended up in a relationship with an exchange student. When she first came on exchange she was in a relationship but she broke up with him a week before we got together.
At the time I was concerned about being a rebound but she convinced me that she hadn't intended for us to happen and that her feelings were genuine. We ended up dating for two months before she went home. (You can probably guess what happened next.)