Nathan W. Pyle, the guy behind the famous NYC etiquette cartoons, has a tip for all of you, if you’ll shut up for just one goddamn second. That’s the tip, actually: when someone says something, and now it’s your turn to talk, and you’re ready to respond emotionally and escalate the conversation, maybe hold your big mouth shut for just one little moment. Can you do that? Here’s Nathan’s multi-part Instagram post, if you can be bothered to click through and pay attention to someone else for once.
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Dear Lifehacker, Could you recommend some podcasts to me? I've been listening to This American Life, TED and Radiolab and want to broaden my horizons with some fresh content. I'm most interested in podcasts in mp3 format as I like to download them to my phone for later listening (no internet connection required).
There are so many good podcasts out there, but there's only so much time in a day. The Wall Street Journal reported on "podcasts nuts" who make time for podcasts by speeding them up with apps such as Overcast. Like, up to 5x speed. Sure, that saves time, but it also probably spikes your blood pressure and makes listening to podcasts super stressful. So what's the best speed to listen to podcasts in without sacrificing your health or ruining the podcast?
The "sandwich" method of feedback, where you squish criticism between compliments to smooth it over, is played out and everyone knows it. Most of us cringe when we hear someone suggest it, and even when it works, it's obvious. Adam Grant, author and professor, says it's time to just give it up, and we agree.
You probably know that listening is an important part of effective communication, but so is how you listen. Real listening is more than just hearing. In this animation from the TED-Ed YouTube channel, Katherine Hampsten explains how miscommunication happens and reveals a few helpful tips on how you can avoid it in your daily life.
Letting someone vent off their frustrations makes you a good friend, a caring family member, and a comforting significant other. Being a good listener, however, often requires a little more effort than nodding your head while they rant. You need to make the people you care about feel comfortable, understood, and validated.
With lectures, you only get out of them what you're willing to put in. You might be bored by the slides, but that information is still important. If you spend that time thinking from the teacher's perspective, you might get a better grasp of the material.
Awkward silences and breaks in conversation can be anxiety-inducing experiences. Yet these pauses and breaks provide an opportunity for the other person to ask you a question and get to know you better.