There’s a famous subreddit where people tell you whether you’re being an arsehole. But sometimes you already know you’re the arsehole, and you don’t know how to stop.
It’s intimidating to email someone whose work you admire, asking for advice, or a coffee chat, or any first meeting that you secretly hope sparks a career-long mentorship. It’s like asking someone on a date while also asking them for a raise. It’s hard and even if you do it…