If I get into an argument with someone, especially one that shouldn’t affect my life in any real way, I know I’m gonna feel like crap for a while, and that I need to lay low or I’ll make it worse. And now I have the right words for that feeling: An emotional cold.
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The news cycle is enough to make you lose hope. Every day brings some fresh horror, or an update on an ongoing horror, or rumblings of horrors to come. It’s like being repeatedly smacked in the face with a tetherball. The events of the last couple of years have pushed some of us to be more politically active, which obviously leads to more political awareness... which can lead to despondency. (See tetherball, above.) Activists digging in for the long haul have to learn how to pace themselves and keep their spirits up.
If you've ever been in the hospital recovering from a surgery, you know the health care providers will ask you to "rate" your pain on a scale of one to ten, so they can administer pain relief if you need it. But assessing mental-health distress doesn't have a simple scale, because mental health isn't as straightforward as physical pain.
James J. Sexton is a divorce lawyer and the author of If You're in My Office, It's Already Too Late, a guide in which he dispenses the relationship wisdom he's gained from listening to more than 1000 divorcing clients.
His advice for parents who are married is unconventional, but it might just help you preserve your union and your sanity.
The current wave of sexual abuse news is causing thoughtful people everywhere to feel disgust, sadness and rage on behalf of those victimised. But for some of us who have endured such violence, the relentless coverage and subsequent backlash are taking us to an even more disturbing place. Here, we take a look at how survivors are affected and offer insights from mental health professionals and survivors on the best ways to cope.
A single morning commute is enough time to gather a thousand seething resentments. People shove you, they litter, they smoke while blocking the footpath. By the time you show up at the office, you might be in full Rorschach-from-Watchmen mode. Instead, fill yourself with the cleansing fire of a kind act.
During the early days of new parenthood, my husband once asked me when he got home from work, "Would you be mad if I had parked around the corner before reaching our house, and took a nap?" My initial response to any question of his that begins with "Would you be mad if..." is always DEFINITELY, but after thinking about it, I told him, "No, if that's going to help you be refreshed, present and engaged when you step through the door, then do it."
Inspired by games from the 2016 Self-Care Jam (which Kotaku mined for favourites), MetaFilter users recently named their favourite calming video games. Some will be familiar, but others are deep cuts by independent developers. Most aren't for winning or losing, just exploring, interacting and existing. None of them force you to battle other players in a tense show-down. Try these out if you're too stressed out for Overwatch or Plague Inc.
Taking a bath is not about getting clean -- that's what showers are for. Baths are about calming your troubled mind and soothing your aches and pains, both physical and emotional. As a highly sensitive person, I find baths to be necessary, and I've gotten very good at them.
Most of us tend to think about success in terms of working hard to accomplish something in order to find happiness. Neil Pasricha, author of The Happiness Equation, makes the case for the opposite: Start with happiness, then use it to accomplish your goals.
Work hard enough for long enough and eventually, you'll hit burnout. It happens, but it's never convenient for your boss. So, how do you let your employer know that you need a break before you break?