iOS/Android: The urge to self-harm, the Calm Harm app tells us, is like a wave. It's strongest at the beginning, but if you ride the wave, it will soon be over. Apps are no substitute for a good therapist, but people who struggle with these moments of crisis say the right app really helps.
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The current wave of sexual abuse news is causing thoughtful people everywhere to feel disgust, sadness and rage on behalf of those victimised. But for some of us who have endured such violence, the relentless coverage and subsequent backlash are taking us to an even more disturbing place. Here, we take a look at how survivors are affected and offer insights from mental health professionals and survivors on the best ways to cope.
A single morning commute is enough time to gather a thousand seething resentments. People shove you, they litter, they smoke while blocking the footpath. By the time you show up at the office, you might be in full Rorschach-from-Watchmen mode. Instead, fill yourself with the cleansing fire of a kind act.
During the early days of new parenthood, my husband once asked me when he got home from work, "Would you be mad if I had parked around the corner before reaching our house, and took a nap?" My initial response to any question of his that begins with "Would you be mad if..." is always DEFINITELY, but after thinking about it, I told him, "No, if that's going to help you be refreshed, present and engaged when you step through the door, then do it."
Inspired by games from the 2016 Self-Care Jam (which Kotaku mined for favourites), MetaFilter users recently named their favourite calming video games. Some will be familiar, but others are deep cuts by independent developers. Most aren't for winning or losing, just exploring, interacting and existing. None of them force you to battle other players in a tense show-down. Try these out if you're too stressed out for Overwatch or Plague Inc.
Taking a bath is not about getting clean -- that's what showers are for. Baths are about calming your troubled mind and soothing your aches and pains, both physical and emotional. As a highly sensitive person, I find baths to be necessary, and I've gotten very good at them.
Most of us tend to think about success in terms of working hard to accomplish something in order to find happiness. Neil Pasricha, author of The Happiness Equation, makes the case for the opposite: Start with happiness, then use it to accomplish your goals.
Work hard enough for long enough and eventually, you'll hit burnout. It happens, but it's never convenient for your boss. So, how do you let your employer know that you need a break before you break?
You know those people who apologise for everything, and you point it out to them, and then they apologise for apologising? Yep, that's me. I've been a pushover my whole life, but the older I get, the sicker of it I get. I finally decided to do something about it.
Doing your best to stay up with current events can often feel like drowning in a torrent of never ending bad news. With information coming at you in every direction, it's easy to get burned out. Compassion and solidarity are important, but being an informed citizen doesn't mean you always have to go down with the ship.