Tagged With etiquette

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When I travel, I typically like to stay out late and sleep in as long as possible in the mornings. My boyfriend, on the other hand, likes to get up at 7am and get a start on the day. By the time my real wake up time has happened he's had time to get breakfast, explore the area around the hotel and is comfortably putzing around on his laptop waiting for me to finally join the living.

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We've all been there. You agree to a group meal when you're on a tight budget, ordering eggs on toast or a garden salad while your friends split appetisers, order entrees and try fancy new smoothies. You watch helplessly as the bill comes and your friend's boyfriend you were never really a fan of to begin with utters those five dark words: "Should we just split it?"

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It isn’t hard. It feels hard! When you walk through a door right before someone else, you need to hold that door open for them, or else you’re rude. But if they’re a little too far behind you, they have to hurry to catch up, and then (as Redditor Voldetitty recently pointed out) you’re actually being annoying. At some nebulous distance there is a phase change from “don’t hold the door open” to “hold the door open”, and misjudging it will ruin your life for as much as five seconds.

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Small talk gets a lot of backlash; most people seem to think they’re too important to discuss the weather. It’s true that some small talk can feel shallow or boring, but it serves an important purpose. That’s why everyone should learn how to do it well.

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Meeting dogs is fun, so we get why you might want to meet all of them, even service dogs. But it’s crucial — lifesaving — that you recognise the difference between a pet and a dog that’s doing a job. As the blog Mashable explains, if you distract a service dog, you could endanger the life of its owner.

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You almost certainly don’t enjoy flying: The cost, the discomfort, the annoying person in Seat B. Just remember that the flight attendants might be having an even worse experience than you, and they can’t complain about it, because it’s their job.

All of which is to say that, in general, it’s important to be thoughtful about the experience of your flight attendants. And it seems that the call button is a particularly common cause of bad behaviour in transit.

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Open relationship, ethical non-monogamy, polyamory, monogamish: there are so many words for telling someone that when it comes right down to it, you’re dating someone else. Here’s how to do so in a way that is respectful of their time and energy.

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Taking someone’s photo without their consent and posting it on the internet is a crappy thing to do. It’s invasive, inappropriate, and can even put the other person in danger. In a world that made any sense, this wouldn’t require further explanation. This would be a commonly understood part of the social contract.

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In this week's episode of The Upgrade, we spoke with Danny Wallace: Comedian, radio host, and author of the book F You Very Much: Understanding the Culture of Rudeness - And What We Can Do About It.

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In preparation for the recent Royal Wedding, The Cut posted a collection of etiquette rules that royals and wedding guests alike must adhere to. While some - such as the proper order for entering a room - are ridiculous and antiquated much like the royal family itself, others are honestly on-point for even the least-regal among us.

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Cancelling social plans is the ultimate in self-gratification -- first you got high off the plans, then you got high off the freedom. But sometimes you leave the other person annoyed and betrayed. So whenever you cancel on someone, make sure to immediately make new plans with them, says redditor DevotedlyHopeless in a post on /r/LifeProTips. Here are some more tactics for cancelling without being a flake.

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Although concerts can be transcendental experiences that inspire collectivism unlike anything else on this earth, anyone who's been to a show has at least one story about another audience member tainting the experience with some form of disruptive behaviour.

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I'm a terrible storyteller. With enough keyboard time I can turn a personal experience into a passable narrative, but in person I fall to pieces. Whenever I try to share a "funny story," even if I've tried following Lifehacker's storytelling tips, I see my audience's faces freeze into a rictus as my story reaches its disappointing climax. So I've abused my power as a journalist to ask some comedians for free advice: How do you fix a funny story that's not working?

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I like a quiet bar. I have since I was 21. This isn't an unusual desire; any time I'm at a bar past eight o'clock, someone (sometimes it's not even me!) eventually says "Sorry, I couldn't hear you. The bar got so loud!" Even the quietest dive fills up now and then with people shouting to be heard, when each person individually wishes the place were quieter. Why, as a culture, have we failed to find a way out of this loudness war? Why are most bars so bloody loud?