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If I asked you to identify the biggest arsehole in your life right now, how quickly would you be able to come up with a name? Some of us might be able to list three or four arseholes with whom we interact on a daily basis, plus all of the anonymous arseholes who cut us off in traffic, cut in front of us in line, and otherwise make our lives miserable.

Predicting the future is near impossible -- but that doesn‘t stop us all from having a red hot go. Human beings have been predicting the future since the beginning of history and the results range from the hilarious to the downright uncanny.

One thing all future predictions have in common: they‘re rooted in our current understanding of how the world works. It‘s difficult to escape that mindset. We have no idea how technology will evolve, so our ideas are connected to the technology of today.

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Quietly, all around you, countless times a day, a woman sends a nude picture of herself to a man she's seeing, and the man gives a crappy response that hurts the woman's feelings. (Presumably this also happens in other gender combinations, but it sure is easy to find men who do it to women!) Writer merritt k has categorised the crappy responses so that you can avoid them, and maybe be deemed worthy of more nudes.

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Giving up your seat on public transportation for someone who needs it should be a simple, easy gesture. And yet, almost all of us have seen an exhausted, heavily pregnant woman standing, ignored, in a train full of comfortably seated passengers; a not-at-all-pregnant woman humiliated by an unsolicited offer to sit; an elderly person forced to stay standing while struggling with heavy grocery bags... the list of cruel indignities goes on.

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Off-white humour blog McSweeney's has a guide to asking questions at public events, formatted by writer and teacher Meriah Crawford as a final exam. Questions include "How long should my questions be?" and "Is this a good opportunity to explain how the speaker is wrong?" and answers include "Sit your ass back down" and "It's ideal to tell a brief story about yourself first, so the whole audience understands how important you and/or your question are."

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When you live in an apartment building with other people, you're bound to encounter at least one tenant who is a bit noisier than the rest. Whether it's excessively loud music, lovemaking or whatever, here's how to approach the situation without being an equally obnoxious neighbour.

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At a dinner party or a family-style meal out, who gets the last piece of food? In this excerpt of the dinner party how-to book Brunch Is Hell, Rico Gagliano and Brendan Francis Newnam lay out the three typical bad solutions (no one eats it, everyone shares tiny bites, an "alpha guest" hogs it), then present a witty five-point plan for awarding the last piece.

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We're all looking for different things on first dates, especially those arranged via dating apps rather than through a wise village matchmaker. Maybe you're just trying to hook up. Maybe you want true love. Maybe you want something in between -- like a sex friend, who will feed your cats while you're on holiday. Whatever it is, I think we can agree that making a good first impression is important.

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Recently, we asked people who worked in the food service industry if there were any insights about their job they wished restaurant patrons would know, and we got some great answers. Whether it's about tipping, food orders, or how you should and shouldn't treat the wait staff, these are the secrets to being a good customer.

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Being a gracious dinner guest means finding polite ways to navigate prickly parts of the event -- whether that's minimising awkward conversations or finding the right way to pass on a dish that makes your stomach churn. If you're headed to someone else's home for holiday feasts this year, here's how to turn down food you don't want to eat without coming across as rude.

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Sometimes you just want some privacy, especially when you're streaming the latest episode of some must-see TV. But if you're spending your downtime binging on Terrace House, you might want to be careful where you're sitting. According to a Netflix user survey, 12 per cent of respondents admitted to watching Netflix while using a public restroom. Yeah. (How many people are watching Netflix from their home bathrooms? Netflix didn't say, but we're guessing it's a much larger percentage.)

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In an ideal world, maybe you'd love to spend a large portion of your free time attending the weddings, birthdays and other life cycle events of your nearest and dearest. But life, work, and geographical boundaries often get in the way, making it a tricky a proposition to attend every single milestone event for every single close friend and family member.

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Man, this last couple of weeks has seen a veritable tsunami of sexual-harassment allegations, right? And while some of the accused are silent or flat-out denying any culpability, others have been swift to apologise.

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Here's a cool thing. When you're sick, or allergic, or something flies up your nose, and you spasm and expel mucus, it's polite for anyone around you, including complete strangers, to call attention to it. In English-speaking countries they say "Bless you," in most of Europe they say "Health."

In almost every culture, the polite response is "Thank you." As in "Thank you for calling attention to my embarrassing bodily function." As in "Thank you for making me thank you while I'm probably still dealing with how something inside me is now outside me." As in, "Thank you for alerting me that for the next three months, I'll be having impromptu two-line conversations with strangers, because my body thinks flowers want to kill it."

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When you visit somebody you care about on their deathbed, don't be fooled by what you see. The person lying there may look totally incoherent, but they can probably hear everything going on in that room.

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Mansplaining has become one of the defining phenomena of the 21st century, and its pedantic tentacles touch everything from the last US presidential campaign to online riffs about how women just can't "get" Rick and Morty. While we've come a long way towards naming and shaming the mansplainers in our midst, on the flip side of that exchange, catching yourself in the act (and taking a step back) can be a challenge for anyone who's spent their whole life assuming that they always have something interesting and useful to say, despite all evidence to the contrary.