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As a new employee, there are a few pieces of advice you'll hear over and over again: Come in with a good attitude, offer to do extra work as often as possible, and never, ever, cry at work. But the fact is, you're human - you're going to cry. Rather than avoid it at all costs and reprimand yourself for not keeping your emotions in check, it's better to prepare for the time it happens.

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In "How to Email Busy People", startup founder Jason Freedman gives several good tips on getting what you want from busy and important people. The most crucial tip, as quoted today by designer Tina Roth Eisenberg, is to be explicit instead of coy.

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When I was in high school, I found out that my friends didn't like me. One of the girls in my "group" told me I wasn't invited to a birthday party because "everyone" thought I was annoying — which, to be honest, at 15 I probably was — and for months I was ostracised. It took some time for me to worm my way back into the gang, but until then, I was devastated and I swore I would spend the rest of my life being likeable.

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When you have a few guests over to an apartment, and you don't have a dedicated coat rack, coats usually go on the bed. But if it's wet out, and you have a nice bedspread, grab some hangers and have guests hang their coats from the shower curtain rod over the tub instead.

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The aeroplane passenger in front of you has rudely reclined into your already-cramped leg space. You grumble and passive-aggressively kick their seat. They yell at you: they're tired, they just want to sleep during the flight, so live with it, buddy! Which of you is the bad guy here? Neither, says Mike Rugnetta. The bad guy is the airline, which goaded you two into this fight.

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If I asked you to identify the biggest arsehole in your life right now, how quickly would you be able to come up with a name? Some of us might be able to list three or four arseholes with whom we interact on a daily basis, plus all of the anonymous arseholes who cut us off in traffic, cut in front of us in line, and otherwise make our lives miserable.

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Quietly, all around you, countless times a day, a woman sends a nude picture of herself to a man she's seeing, and the man gives a crappy response that hurts the woman's feelings. (Presumably this also happens in other gender combinations, but it sure is easy to find men who do it to women!) Writer merritt k has categorised the crappy responses so that you can avoid them, and maybe be deemed worthy of more nudes.

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Giving up your seat on public transportation for someone who needs it should be a simple, easy gesture. And yet, almost all of us have seen an exhausted, heavily pregnant woman standing, ignored, in a train full of comfortably seated passengers; a not-at-all-pregnant woman humiliated by an unsolicited offer to sit; an elderly person forced to stay standing while struggling with heavy grocery bags... the list of cruel indignities goes on.

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Off-white humour blog McSweeney's has a guide to asking questions at public events, formatted by writer and teacher Meriah Crawford as a final exam. Questions include "How long should my questions be?" and "Is this a good opportunity to explain how the speaker is wrong?" and answers include "Sit your ass back down" and "It's ideal to tell a brief story about yourself first, so the whole audience understands how important you and/or your question are."

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When you live in an apartment building with other people, you're bound to encounter at least one tenant who is a bit noisier than the rest. Whether it's excessively loud music, lovemaking or whatever, here's how to approach the situation without being an equally obnoxious neighbour.

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At a dinner party or a family-style meal out, who gets the last piece of food? In this excerpt of the dinner party how-to book Brunch Is Hell, Rico Gagliano and Brendan Francis Newnam lay out the three typical bad solutions (no one eats it, everyone shares tiny bites, an "alpha guest" hogs it), then present a witty five-point plan for awarding the last piece.

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We're all looking for different things on first dates, especially those arranged via dating apps rather than through a wise village matchmaker. Maybe you're just trying to hook up. Maybe you want true love. Maybe you want something in between -- like a sex friend, who will feed your cats while you're on holiday. Whatever it is, I think we can agree that making a good first impression is important.

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Recently, we asked people who worked in the food service industry if there were any insights about their job they wished restaurant patrons would know, and we got some great answers. Whether it's about tipping, food orders, or how you should and shouldn't treat the wait staff, these are the secrets to being a good customer.