Use A Compliment When You've Forgotten A Name

It's hard to remember names. Despite your best efforts, strategies, and even apps, you're going to forget. Gretchen Rubin, writing for Psychology Today, has a good suggestion for avoiding the awkwardness that follows your lack of memory: use a compliment.

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For example:

"Wow, you have a terrific memory. I can't believe you remember my name from that meeting six months ago. I can't remember the names of people I met yesterday! So of course I have to ask you your name."

When you simply can't remember a name it's not a bad idea to be a little apologetic and complimentary. As with the example, it helps to show you remember something so it's clear you at least recall, to some extent, who you are talking to. In many cases people will care more that you actually remembered something about them rather than their name, especially if that moment had a particular impact. When I meet new people, I apologise for forgetting their names in advance. It's extremely likely that I will, so I let them know ahead of time and ask them to just slip it into the conversation whenever possible because I want to remember them. A little bit of flattery can make your deficiencies much less of a problem.

Forget a Name? 6 Tips for Faking It [Psychology Today]


Comments

    The same technique can also be used with your significant other when you've forgotten something, such as milk, tampons or an anniversary.
    I think she's starting to suspect my effusive praise of her hair/lipstick/spoon collection is a smokescreen.

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