Nathan W. Pyle, the guy behind the famous NYC etiquette cartoons, has a tip for all of you, if you’ll shut up for just one goddamn second. That’s the tip, actually: when someone says something, and now it’s your turn to talk, and you’re ready to respond emotionally and escalate the conversation, maybe hold your big mouth shut for just one little moment. Can you do that? Here’s Nathan’s multi-part Instagram post, if you can be bothered to click through and pay attention to someone else for once.
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At some point we all have to be the one to deliver bad news to another person. Whether it's breaking up with a significant other or firing an employee, we all have to do it. Quartz recently published a story by an oncologist who has to deliver bad news on a daily basis on what some of the best practices are for doing so.
While his advice is certainly a bit skewed toward telling someone they have cancer, it can come in handy in almost any situation where you need to pass along information another person might not want to hear.
Reddit chat rooms are here. As if you didn't spend enough of your 9-to-5 workday browsing /r/aww, /r/explainlikeimfive, /r/bestof, or /r/SubredditDrama, you can now share your thoughts about posts (and life) with real Redditors in real time! Mashing the F5 key to refresh a static comments page is so last year.
I'm a terrible storyteller. With enough keyboard time I can turn a personal experience into a passable narrative, but in person I fall to pieces. Whenever I try to share a "funny story," even if I've tried following Lifehacker's storytelling tips, I see my audience's faces freeze into a rictus as my story reaches its disappointing climax. So I've abused my power as a journalist to ask some comedians for free advice: How do you fix a funny story that's not working?
In this episode we're talking about the lost art of conversation-making. Joining us is podcaster and raconteur Ken Plume, who has conducted extensive interviews with the likes of Mel Brooks and John Cleese. We discuss how Ken got his start feeling comfortable talking to just about anyone, how he handles the awkwardness of a cocktail party (hint: It involves a fern) - and then we invent an acronym that will help you handle any conversational challenge. (Sort of.)
We've all received the conventional wisdom that filler words such as "um", "uh" and the especially dreaded "like" have no place in conversation. They make you sound dumb! They diminish your authority! But, according to a linguist, filler words serve an important function, and we shouldn't be so quick to try to banish them from conversation.
You have problems, I have advice. This advice isn't sugar-coated - in fact, it's sugar-free, and may even be a little bitter. Welcome to Tough Love.
Next weekend is my family's yearly reunion. It's across the country, so I'm not going, but my father is currently contemplating the trip. When we talked about the event this week, he talked about how he wanted to go and see everyone, but he also wanted to avoid a number of different conversation topics. Like all families, we have things we'd rather not talk about and he was worried he was going to get caught in a bunch of awkward conversations where people asked him about things he didn't want to discuss and he was forced to answer. My advice: Go in with a plan.
At some point in your life you'll have an awkward conversation. Parties, networking events, they're all minefields potentially littered with awkward pauses, regrettable jokes and just plain invasive small talk. You don't have to suffer the slings and arrows of bad conversation. Some tried and true practices to get you out already exist, whether it means bothering a buddy or downloading an app.