Quietly, all around you, countless times a day, a woman sends a nude picture of herself to a man she's seeing, and the man gives a crappy response that hurts the woman's feelings. (Presumably this also happens in other gender combinations, but it sure is easy to find men who do it to women!) Writer merritt k has categorised the crappy responses so that you can avoid them, and maybe be deemed worthy of more nudes.
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Buddying up can help you reach your fitness resolutions - or whatever goal you happen to be chasing. But you don't have to work out together to help each other (couples, breathe a sigh of relief).
You're getting ready for a big night on the town when your companion turns to you and asks, "Do I look OK?" Gulp. Do you fire off a "Yep!" without looking? Do you tell them they always look so, so good? Or do you give them some honest feedback? We asked you what you would say, and this is what you told us.
We don't like to admit it, but a marriage (or any long, cohabiting relationship) looks less like an early romance and more like a business partnership. As organisational psychologist Adam Grant and his wife Allison Sweet Grant explain in Redbook, married life involves a lot of compromise and negotiation. They offer four negotiation techniques for avoiding unhappy compromises.
Android/iOS: Your favourite social network for pretending you have a perfect life is now ready to let everyone know when you're online and lurking. Instagram is adding an activity status indicator to the people in your Direct Messages list, letting you know when they're on and ignoring that last funny video you sent. If you're of the same opinion as me, you're probably wondering how to disable this terrible new feature. Good news, lurkers: You can!
Off-white humour blog McSweeney's has a guide to asking questions at public events, formatted by writer and teacher Meriah Crawford as a final exam. Questions include "How long should my questions be?" and "Is this a good opportunity to explain how the speaker is wrong?" and answers include "Sit your ass back down" and "It's ideal to tell a brief story about yourself first, so the whole audience understands how important you and/or your question are."
There's something magical about cancelling plans last minute - yes, I've heard the John Mulaney joke. You instantly get to do whatever you want and not feel beholden to anyone. True freedom is only a shameful text away. But flaking out is a slippery slope that can lead to a detrimental, and fairly rude, habit. Here's why you get such a rush of relief when your evening suddenly frees up, and how to stop yourself from becoming the person who always bails.
Even if Twitter finally bans the Nazis (lol yeah right), there will always be boring, stupid, annoying and bad people on the internet. And sometimes they will find what you put online, and bother you about it. How do you deal with them without feeling like crap? We got some advice from Eli Yudin, CollegeHumor's community manager, whose whole job is talking to strangers on the internet.
Furries - people who dress up like cartoon animals and do less sex stuff than you'd think - know that the rest of society finds them weird. In public, they often respond to this by being very careful and polite. So much so, that we could all learn a thing or two about their hotel etiquette.
If you're buried under unanswered email, and find yourself constantly starting your replies with "Sorry for the delay," do what BuzzFeed reporter and creative miscreant Katie Notopoulos did: Answer your emails right away, with just a couple of words. She calls it "emailing like a CEO", the same phrase used in a 2001 New York Times piece about how high-tier executives tend to send terse, misspelled emails.
"Lately I've been feeling a bit hopeless about finding love," writes Ask MetaFilter user seraph9, in a post called "Alternatives to Love". "What are your most rewarding, fulfilling, amazing non-romantic experiences or undertakings?" Respondents listed enriching activities that illustrate how much more there is to life than work and romance.
You have problems, I have advice. This advice isn't sugar-coated - in fact, it's sugar-free, and may even be a little bitter. Welcome to Tough Love.
It's perfectly natural to play it close to the vest at work, especially if you're the new guy in the office. But office camaraderie depends on more than showing up on time or coming through on a group project. It also involves participating in work-related social events, often including the occasional after-work drinks with your colleagues. If you're an introvert, FastCompany has a few guidelines on when you should (or shouldn't) attend your office's happy hour event.
How can you break the news to someone who smells bad? You could be honest and compassionate, sitting down with your stinky loved one to broach the topic. But if you just want to drop a truth bomb and run away, we have a few suggestions.
In an ideal world, maybe you'd love to spend a large portion of your free time attending the weddings, birthdays and other life cycle events of your nearest and dearest. But life, work, and geographical boundaries often get in the way, making it a tricky a proposition to attend every single milestone event for every single close friend and family member.
In a recent issue of Archie spinoff Jughead, the comic's title character falls in like with a girl. Jughead has canonically identified as asexual, so he's shocked and confused. He doesn't know what this girl looks like; he's only seen her dressed as a giant cheeseburger. So his friend Betty urges him to make a move - but a polite, respectful one. And for a young woman on the wrong end of a love triangle over a ginger, Betty has great advice.