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The conventional guideline for sharing the news of a pregnancy is that you should wait until the ceremonial 12 or 13-week mark, the endpoint of the most anxiety-ridden first trimester when most pregnancy losses are diagnosed. What the rule is really saying is: Don't get too excited. But what if you do have a miscarriage? You're left alone to navigate your tragedy, one that you did nothing to cause, one that so many others have experienced, too.


"I'm sorry, there's no heartbeat," my doctor said to me. She didn't sound very sorry, leaving the room so quickly -- ostensibly so I could pull up my underwear -- that she couldn't hear me burst out in tears.