There's a reason failure stories are popular: They're relatable. We all fall on our faces at some point, and stories of redemption are encouraging. However, it can be tricky to find a balance between discussing your failure and just self-deprecating.
When your spouse or partner does something to annoy you, it's easy to bring up the topic in a way that suggests blame. Even if they are at fault, that approach often leads to a fight. To avoid arguing, try telling your spouse what you want instead of just airing your grievances.