Many parents dole out punishment when their children do something bad, but Alan Kazdin, director of the Yale Parenting Center, says that even gentle punishments like time outs don't work.
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Years ago, a friend told me about some self-help book she read. It sounded like a load of crap, but I didn't have the heart to say that. Instead, I acted interested and told her it was great. So she kept talking about it and urging me to read it until I confessed it just wasn't my thing. "You seemed so interested in it, though," she said. Yep, that was just me being a complete phoney.
Nobody likes complaining, but is it really that bad? Complaining feels cathartic. Complaining gives us something to talk about. Ninety per cent of Seinfeld was just listening to four characters complain, and it was entertaining and relatable. Complaining can be harmful and obnoxious, but it can also serve a purpose. It just takes approaching it the right way.
Some days, the road to becoming healthier or more fit is fraught with bumps, obstacles, and confusing junctions. It might feel easier to just throw in the towel because dealing with these hazards can be such a hassle, but before you give up, try to imagine your alternate reality to renew your motivation.
In the above scene from the science-fiction movie Minority Report, Tom Cruise's character is harassed by a musical cereal box that won't shut up. It sounds stupidly implausible, but a new study has shown that people actually do prefer snacks that require them to press noise-making buttons. We're no better than monkeys, in other words.
Parents take note: if your tot is regularly emotional, disobedient, anxious or distant, you could have an "early bloomer" on your hands. Australian researchers have found that children who go through early puberty are more likely to have mental problems at a very young age -- with behavioural symptoms appearing in children as young as four.
Debating the futility of war with a member of the military is pointless -- it could also earn you a punch in the mouth for your troubles. A large-scale UK study has found young men who have served in the Armed Forces are three times more likely to commit violent crimes compared to their civilian counterparts.
If you received a raise tomorrow, what would you do with the extra money? Most people would celebrate -- maybe with a nice dinner out or a great bottle of wine, which you deserve. However, earning more should not always change your current or long-term spending habits. The problem is that our minds have the tendency to think we can (and should) spend it. This can quickly create a loss of context, consistency and control.
Whether you're trying to kick a bad habit or establish a good one, 21Habit is a simple web app that operates on the principle that you need to repeat a daily activity 21 times before it becomes a habit. Although you don't have to, the truly serious can put up 21 dollars -- one dollar per day -- against your commitment that you'll make those changes.