We humans are masters of resentment — a characteristic that can be traced back the beginnings of recorded history. Feuds seem to be an indelible aspect of the human condition, but why should this be? We spoke to the experts to find out why we love to hold a grudge, and the importance of letting go.
Multiplayer video games can get toxic fast, especially when you're stuck with a team of overranked LOSERS and you are the ONLY ONE guarding the last capture point while Trash6Boner9 just DICKS AROUND. You complain to your friend or your partner, and they ask why you even play this game if it pisses you off so much. And then you feel utterly alone in the world.
It's impossible to please everyone on the internet, but some times you strike an online nerve, and things can get a little heated. Here are some of the posts that made your blood boil just a bit in 2017.
Online multiplayer games are a blast to play with friends or randoms alike, but they can quickly get ruined by players who only have negative things to say to you or your teammates. These tips will help you deal with their trash talk so you can stay focused on enjoying your precious game time.
When you lose your temper, and it feels like anger is going to overtake your mind, you must find a way to compose yourself. The best way to do this is to walk away from the person, place, or thing that is angering you and spend some time alone.
Centuries ago, from 2007 to 2016, the hot attraction was the escape room, a sort of real-life game of Myst where you solved puzzles to get out of a dungeon or library or steampunk laboratory. But it's 2017, and it isn't time for cerebral games. It's time for unchecked rage. It's time for the anger room.
We tend to think of anger has a negative, pessimistic feeling. It's actually linked to optimism, though. Anger is often a reaction to being let down after we're optimistic about something.
When your stress is building into an exasperating moment, emotions can easily get the best of you. And that can be detrimental if you're in a professional environment. The next time you're about to explode with stress, try this instead.
It's Tuesday morning, the alarm on your phone goes off and you can't help but look at the first email in your inbox. You read the first few words and begin to worry: Is your boss mad? You keep reading, and it's true -- she's really steamed.
When you're surrounded by jerks, it's hard to keep from turning into one yourself. To stay calm in the face of someone else's tantrum, find their "pin".
Sometimes the best way to gain control of your emotions is to step back and think about what you might look and sound like to a stranger.
You’re at the park with the kids. Everyone’s having fun, and then a strange dog appears. There’s no owner around. It’s eyeballing the kids. Immediately your threat system becomes activated. You stand alert, fully focused on the dog; heart racing, fists clenched. The dog bolts in, baring its teeth, and you pounce. You’re now in survival mode, full of rage and violence.
Having a slow internet connection and being in slow traffic aren't that big of a deal in the grand scheme of things. Then how come it infuriates us almost instantly? Here's why we snap, and how we snap out of it, according to a neuroscientist.
Letting someone vent off their frustrations makes you a good friend, a caring family member, and a comforting significant other. Being a good listener, however, often requires a little more effort than nodding your head while they rant. You need to make the people you care about feel comfortable, understood, and validated.
You've finally had it. You're angry and you're not gonna take it anymore. Before you tell someone off, quit your job, or finally toss that aggravating project, come up with a plan to "spend" your anger effectively.
Everyone has their own natural way of handling anger, but some methods are proven to be more healthy than others. In terms of picking the healthiest option, this simple thought is not quite all you need to do, but it's a mind hack to help get you there.
When you're angry, rather than trying to push down your rage, try reappraising the situation. A change in perspective may help change your emotional response.
Growing up, I got high marks for my mild manner and good behaviour. I was the "good kid" who never caused trouble or made a fuss. This has carried over into adulthood, with me avoiding every argument like the plague. But being non-confrontational as an adult is more damaging and debilitating than it is helpful.
