We humans are masters of resentment — a characteristic that can be traced back the beginnings of recorded history. Feuds seem to be an indelible aspect of the human condition, but why should this be? We spoke to the experts to find out why we love to hold a grudge, and the importance of letting go.
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Multiplayer video games can get toxic fast, especially when you're stuck with a team of overranked LOSERS and you are the ONLY ONE guarding the last capture point while Trash6Boner9 just DICKS AROUND. You complain to your friend or your partner, and they ask why you even play this game if it pisses you off so much. And then you feel utterly alone in the world.
Centuries ago, from 2007 to 2016, the hot attraction was the escape room, a sort of real-life game of Myst where you solved puzzles to get out of a dungeon or library or steampunk laboratory. But it's 2017, and it isn't time for cerebral games. It's time for unchecked rage. It's time for the anger room.
When your stress is building into an exasperating moment, emotions can easily get the best of you. And that can be detrimental if you're in a professional environment. The next time you're about to explode with stress, try this instead.
When you're surrounded by jerks, it's hard to keep from turning into one yourself. To stay calm in the face of someone else's tantrum, find their "pin".
You’re at the park with the kids. Everyone’s having fun, and then a strange dog appears. There’s no owner around. It’s eyeballing the kids. Immediately your threat system becomes activated. You stand alert, fully focused on the dog; heart racing, fists clenched. The dog bolts in, baring its teeth, and you pounce. You’re now in survival mode, full of rage and violence.
Letting someone vent off their frustrations makes you a good friend, a caring family member, and a comforting significant other. Being a good listener, however, often requires a little more effort than nodding your head while they rant. You need to make the people you care about feel comfortable, understood, and validated.
Growing up, I got high marks for my mild manner and good behaviour. I was the "good kid" who never caused trouble or made a fuss. This has carried over into adulthood, with me avoiding every argument like the plague. But being non-confrontational as an adult is more damaging and debilitating than it is helpful.