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  • What You Should Say to Kids Instead of ‘Good Job’

    What You Should Say to Kids Instead of ‘Good Job’

    We’ve all said it. When our child climbs a rock wall for the first time, does a cartwheel, or brings home some less-than-stellar art, it’s almost instinct to toss out an enthusiastic, “Good job!” And while it seems like we’re doing the right thing — offering encouragement and positive reinforcement — parenting experts caution that over…