Creating a Sex Room? Here’s a Bunch of Sex Toys to Fill it With

First, it was Fifty Shades of Grey, the books, the movies, and the sex toy ranges. Then, it was Netflix’s How to Build a Sex Room. Over the last few years, we’ve become more and more curious about sex ‘dungeons’ or sex rooms as they’re referred to in more recent times.

After laying eyes on the infamous Red Room of Pain (Christian’s luxuriously furnished, leather and mahogany-clad playroom), fetishes and fantasies of rooms purely dedicated to sex and BDSM have become increasingly popular. If you’re nodding your heading agreement, we’ve got good news for you. Here’s how you can create your own.

Now we’re not suggesting you soundproof your spare room or turn your home office into a den of iniquity just yet – for starters you probably don’t have Mr Grey’s magical money tree! But with a few toys, tweaks and accessories you can enjoy Red Room-inspired revelry, too.

Set the scene

First, create a sensual, inviting atmosphere. Get rid of anything that might distract you from pleasure – that overflowing laundry basket or pile of bills will really kill the mood. Think soft, ambient lighting – overhead light can be unforgiving and offputting, so flick the dimmer switch or use a few carefully placed lamps or candles.

The first thing Ana notices when she steps into the Red Room is the smell of leather, wood and citrus. Aromas can be incredibly arousing, especially if you’re planning to use a blindfold in your play, so light a scented candle or warm up by rubbing a little scented massage oil into each other’s skin.

Christian’s leather and mahogany-furnished playroom boasts a rather impressive, bigger-than-kingsize bed, but as it’s not for sleeping, there’s no bedding, just a mattress covered in red leather. We suspect red leather mattresses are hard to come by, so we’d suggest just removing the duvet and pillows. You could always invest in some vinyl bedsheets.

Sweet sensation

Fifty Shades of Grey Hard Limits Bed Restraint Kit ($99.95)

Sensory play and restraint feature heavily in Christian’s Red Room repertoire, so the first thing we’d suggest you invest in is an effective, comfortable blindfold to plunge the wearer into total darkness. Slipping something specifically for sex over your eyes, like the Fifty Shades of Grey No Peeking Soft Blindfolds ($29.95) or grab one of the Fifty Shades of Grey Hard Limits Bed Restraint Kit ($99.95), is incredibly erotic and perfect for authentic Christian and Ana play.

Not only does it enhance your lover’s senses and increase anticipation, but it also means they have no idea which part of their body will be touched or kissed next.

Keep still

Being at the mercy of your lover’s wildest whims can be an intensely erotic experience, so add some wrist and ankle cuffs to your play and recreate some of the most heart-poundingly erotic scenes from the books. Made from padded leather, the DOMINIX Deluxe Leather Wrist Cuffs ($64.95) promise sensually soft but reassuringly firm restraint for seriously sexy restrictions.

The rope is another option for restraint, but make sure you choose a silky type for sensual winding and binding, especially if you want to experiment with lots of different kinds of restraints. The Fifty Shades of Grey Restrain Me Bondage Rope ($29.95) is a popular option.

It’s crucial that you play safely, as rope can be dangerous when handled by an inexperienced user – read Lovehoney’s tips on safe rope play before you begin. And before you engage in any bondage, remember to agree on boundaries and settle on a safe word (Ana picked ‘popsicle’, so anything goes).

Now that your sub is safely (and comfortably) restrained, you can elevate your restraint play to dizzying heights with teasing strokes from the Fifty Shades of Grey Please, Sir Flogger ($36.95), or take things further with the Fifty Shades of Grey Bound to You Faux Leather Spanking Paddle ($64.95). Start with a few gentle slaps, choosing from the soft suede side or sleek leather for sharper sensations. If you really want to bring the pain, try the Sweet Sting Riding Crop ($44.95).

Pleasure overload

Fifty Shades Freed All Sensation Nipple and Clitoral Chain ($44.95)

While his whips and crops are proudly displayed around the Red Room, Christian’s polished mahogany drawers are groaning under the weight of all manner of playthings, from a massage wand to a vibrating butt plug, all of which you can buy from Lovehoney.

Ana also gets her first taste of nipple clamps in Darker. Add delightful pinch and pressure to your play with the Fifty Shades Freed All Sensation Nipple and Clitoral Chain ($44.95), and discover heightened sensitivity and the sweet place between pleasure and pain.

Temperature play can be intensely erotic (cast your memory back to the ice cream scene in Darker). If you don’t want to get ice cream on your sheets, play with the sensations by cooling or heating a temperature-responsive toy like the Fifty Shades of Grey Drive Me Crazy Glass Massage Wand ($54.95). A quick dip in a bowl of warm or ice-cool water before you use it can introduce nerve-tingling pleasure to your play. (Just remember to test the temperature against your arm to avoid any accidents!)

So, there you have it – your very own Red Room, without the bottomless budget of a billionaire.

Cecile Sharpe is a blogger and sex toy expert who writes for Lovehoney Australia. You can see a list of their best-selling products here.

This article has been updated since its original publication.