Why Do Happy People Have Affairs?

Video: In the first instalment of our four-part series on infidelity, relationship and sex expert Esther Perel takes on a thorny issue: Why people in happy relationships still sometimes wind up cheating.

Image: Hamza Butt

Instead of indicating that there's some hole to be filled in the relationship - or in ourselves - affairs often mean that we're looking for a different version of ourselves, says Perel, rather than just a different partner.

Cheating can often be a means of self-exploration, albeit one that's very hurtful to our loved ones.

"I think what is important to understand is that it's not always a problem in the relationship, or a problem in you," says Perel. Check out the clip above for the full explanation, and stay tuned for more videos from Perel, including tips on how couples can heal in the aftermath of an affair.

Video credits

Narrated by: Esther Perel

Illustrated by: Natalia Ramos

Animated by: Daniel GarcĂ­a


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