What You Need To Know About Prostate Massages

Prostate, P-spot, Milkman-delivery-drop-off-point – whatever you want to call it, if you haven’t played with it, you’re missing out. Located just a few inches inside the anus, this incredible erogenous zone is within easy reach!

When stimulated, or massaged, the prostate, or p-spot, can produce explosive orgasms that can leave a man’s entire body trembling, or, even better, lead to multiple orgasms. If the notion of explosive orgasms weren’t enough to tempt you, here’s the why and the how.


We all know that orgasms achieved through penile stimulation are great. But imagine orgasms that was much more powerful, more intense and lasted for even longer. P-Spot orgasms can be exactly that, and without even making contact with the penis.

Massaging the prostate gland, filled with its numerous nerve endings, creates a deep, intense sensation at the root of the penis that spreads to the entire body. What’s not to like about that?

Furthermore, unlike ejaculation, which is the result of stimulating the penis, having a P-spot orgasm – or “dry orgasm” – requires no rest period. You can keep coming and coming to your heart’s content (with no clear up necessary!)

Playing with the prostate isn’t only for solo pleasure, it can be a great practice for couple’s play. What woman or man doesn’t want to help their partner achieve orgasms that will blow their socks right off? Massaging your partner’s prostate can be an incredibly intimate experience, for both parties, so requires a lot of trust and relaxation.

Indulging in this activity can help bring couples closer together, and let bring a little cheeky (sorry) adventure into your lovelife.

Locating your prostate

The prostate is fairly easy to find. It’s located about 2-3 inches inside the anus, on the wall closest to the stomach. Walnut-sized, with a similar texture, the prostate gland will enlarge when you’re aroused to make it even easier to spot.

So finding the little nugget of glory is a piece of cake, however, pleasuring it in a natural, comfortable way can take a little experimentation. Luckily, the lovely people who work in the world of sex toys, have developed lots of products to help you on this massage mission.

Although many men will try with their fingers first, using a toy can be a lot more beneficial – and a lot easier. A prostate massager, like the Lovehoney Pleasure Probe 5 Function Vibrating Prostate Massager, is a toy specifically designed to stimulate your prostate gland.

Toys like this have a tapered tip to ease insertion and a rounded, often bulbous head to ensure stimulation where you need it. Although many men are put off by larger massagers and probes, a bigger toy is actually ideal for beginners as they find your P-spot much more quickly. A smaller surface area will make it harder to find the prostate but will offer better pinpoint stimulation if that’s what you’re into.

Many prostate massagers are curved, with a variety of shaft styles ranging from smooth to bulbed and a flared base to prevent over insertion. Some are non-vibrating while others will have a whole host of patterns and pulses to satisfy you. Whatever you decide to go for, they’re almost all used in the same way.

Apply an anal lubricant directly to your toy, and yourself, and slowly begin to insert the toy. Once in, gently experiment with motions, pressures and speeds until you find what works for you. You might find that you can achieve a hands-free orgasm by clenching and releasing your muscles and letting the toy move your the body.

If your first toy doesn’t quite hit the spot (winky face) then try and alternative and keep exploring with sensations. This is something everyone equipped with a prostate needs to try at least once – regardless of your sexuality or the gender you identify as. Have fun!

Anna Lee is a blogger and sex toy expert who writes for Lovehoney Australia. You can see a list of their best-selling products here.

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