"ATTENTION ARTISTS: Sometimes your friends will have successes, and you'll be jealous, even if you don't want to be," says author and Dinosaur Comics creator Ryan North in an inspirational Twitter thread.
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He has two tips for dealing with that jealousy, which apply to anyone who's envied a colleague:
- The first is for your friend's benefit: When you congratulate them, don't let your jealousy leak in. You might be tempted to mention that you were applying for the same promotion, or trying a similar project that went nowhere. "That just makes the person feel bad," says North, and draws the attention back to you.
- The second is for you: It's normal to have trouble being happy for your friend even when you know you should. Think selfishly: You want successful friends, don't you? The better off they are, the more they can help you down the road. Just don't ask for any favours right away; set yourself a reminder for a few weeks or months down the road.
We'll add our own: Promote their success wholeheartedly, in public. It builds some goodwill, plus it forces you into thinking in terms of real appreciation and adulation.