Whether you’ve been asked out by someone you’re not interested in or you’ve been at the receiving end of a rejection, we’d like to know your thoughts on the best way to turn down a date.
I recently read some advice from Andrea Syrtash, relationship expert and author of He’s Just Not Your Type (And That’s A Good Thing) on how to dole out a rejection in the least hurtful way.
If you’re asked out by someone you’re not familiar with and not interested in, she suggested saying “I’m flattered, but I’m not available.” (which would be a white lie if you’re not really in a relationship). For someone you know well and they know you’re not in a relationship: “I’m so flattered; thank you. But I feel like we’re more suitable as friends” or, “I’m not in that place right now.” (effectively friend-zoning the person).
I’ve been asked out by someone who I only saw as a friend. I’ve also been at the receiving end of a rejection. I’m not exactly sure I dealt with either of those situation in the most elegant way possible but I do feel that Syrtash’s advice on this matter is a bit lacking.
That’s why I want to throw it over to our readers. Tell us about the best method you’ve used to turn someone down or a time when you’ve been rejected and have remained on good terms with the person.
Let us know in the comments.