No matter how you handle criticism, it is always tough to hear, and even tougher to separate the parts that don’t matter from the feedback you can use. Focus on the “meat and potatoes” to get actionable steps you can work on.
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Separating your emotional response, the person’s tone and your relationship with them from what they’re telling you isn’t easy. But it helps to go in with a mindset to zero in on the “meat and potatoes” of their message so that you walk away with stuff you can do something about, rather than being distracted by how you feel or how they delivered their message. Even if you’re being critiqued by someone who isn’t great at giving feedback, you can still use this technique to filter out their delivery style and comments that you can’t do anything about, like a company policy or a colleague’s work quality.