Why I Had My Babies With A Midwife Instead Of A Doctor

Why I Had My Babies With A Midwife Instead Of A Doctor

“Are you having an ultrasound?” the midwife asked, at my first appointment. I thought there had been a miscommunication: Nobody had told me whether I would have one. “Well, it’s up to you,” she said. She could explain the pros and cons, but the decision was mine. Welcome to the midwifery model of care.

Illustration by Tara Jacoby.

Midwives are an alternative to obstetricians for women with uncomplicated pregnancies. They have training in pregnancy and birth — often a graduate nursing degree, though more recently they may have obtained a Bachelor of Midwifery — but they aren’t doctors. You can go to a midwife for care during your pregnancy, and they can attend your birth as long as you don’t have any serious complications or risk factors. Birth with a midwife is usually more of a low-tech experience than what you’d typically get with a doctor in a hospital.

Midwife care isn’t (just) an alternative woo-woo birth option for the granola-crunching crowd. They’re committed to giving care that is backed by scientific knowledge, and putting you in the drivers seat. They work with you to carefully consider all options instead of just “we’ve always done it this way.” There are other perks to midwife care, but this was the clincher for me.

I went to a midwife group practice for all three of my pregnancies, and had a midwife at each birth: Once in the hospital, twice at a birth centre. With a midwife, I know I have a greater chance of having a natural birth without surgery or medication — and that if I do need some kind of intervention, that it was truly needed. I also have the option to deliver at a birth centre instead of a hospital, which has a ton of advantages we’ll discuss later.

Midwife care isn’t appropriate for everyone, and this is not an advertisement: You might prefer a doctor-and-hospital birth, or your pregnancy might require one. Midwives can’t perform surgery and will turn down pregnancies that are “high risk”, although that definition may vary. (For example, my midwives would turn you away if you are having twins, or for gestational diabetes that is severe enough to require insulin.) And that’s totally fine. But here’s why I made the decision I did.

Midwives Put You in the Driver’s Seat

The Australian College of Midwives lays out their philosophy here. Some of the notable points are that midwivery:

  • is holistic and recognises each woman’s social, emotional, physical, spiritual and cultural needs, expectations and context as defined by the woman herself.
  • recognises every woman’s right to self-determination in attaining choice, control and continuity of care from one or more known caregivers.
  • recognises every woman’s responsibility to make informed decisions for herself, her baby and her family with assistance, when requested, from health professionals.
  • is informed by scientific evidence, by collective and individual experience, and by intuition.
  • aims to follow each woman through pregnancy, labour and birth and the postnatal period, across the transition between institutions and the community, so she remains connected to her social support systems; the focus remaining on the woman, not on the institutions or the professionals involved.

The second two explain why the midwives asked me, rather than told me, whether I would have an ultrasound, or a first-trimester genetic screen, or a group B strep test. They asked if I was cool with a shot of oxytocin immediately after birth, and whether I wanted my baby to have the standard eye ointment and Vitamin K shot.

I made the choice for each based on their risks and benefits, and in the case of tests on how actionable they were: What would I do differently if the test turned out positive? In some cases, I departed from the guidelines for reasons particular to me and my medical history.

Most of the other items in the midwifery model of care can be summed up as: Midwives are supposed to respect you as a human being. They ask about your concerns and give you time to talk, and they ask permission before sticking their hand up your hoo-ha (the medical version of a “yes means yes” rule).

There are certainly doctors who work this way, and I applaud them. If I ever have a high-risk pregnancy, you can bet I’ll start a search party to find one. I chose a midwife because I know their entire profession is dedicated to this philosophy, and because they have a different perspective than doctors to begin with. Obstetricians’ education focuses on what can go wrong in labour, and how to fix it. Midwives are the opposite: They keep an eye out for potential problems, but they know all the variations of normal, and are experts in managing pregnancy and birth with a minimum of intervention.

You Don’t Have to Give Birth in a Hospital

Midwives practice in homes, hospitals and an in-between kind of place called a birth centre. Birth centres are equipped to deal with normal births and their minor complications.

My room at the birth centre looked like a comfy bedroom, with a large bed (there was a mattress protector under the sheet, of course), a cradle and a rocking chair and a bathroom with a jacuzzi. One wall was covered in cabinets that opened out to reveal a baby scale and exam table, and all the supplies needed for a birth. When my baby had mucus in her airway and the midwife was concerned about her breathing, an oxygen machine appeared out of nowhere.

I’ll admit it: When I was in labour, and the contractions got really painful — like so bad that even video games didn’t help — I kind of wished I had the option of an epidural for pain relief. An epidural is a hospital thing, and you need an anaesthesiologist to administer it. If you’re in the hospital and choose to have an epidural, typically you’ll also need fetal heart rate and contraction monitoring to make sure the baby is OK, and to let you know — because you can’t necessarily feel — when you’re having a contraction. Epidurals also have their risks, including a greater likelihood of a C-section, and possibly interfering with the baby’s ability to breastfeed in that critical first hour after birth. I had chosen a birth centre, in part, because I didn’t want any of that.

Everything in medicine comes with a benefit and a risk, including some things that are common in hospital births. Not being in a hospital is like keeping cookies out of the house or putting your credit card in the freezer: You reduce temptation, but also make it harder to get to the credit card — or the epidural — when you really need it.

I had that moment of regret in each of my births, and yet I always felt afterwards that I did the right thing by checking in to the birth centre instead of planning a hospital birth. And I did end up with an epidural with my first baby, so I’ve had both experiences.

If you’re anywhere outside a hospital when you go into labour, you have to plan for the possibility that you might end up in the hospital anyway. That’s what happened with my first baby: There was meconium (foetus poop) in the amniotic fluid, which triggered the trip to the hospital: It’s a red flag for possible other problems, and if the baby inhales the meconium, it can affect his breathing. Since it wasn’t an emergency, no ambulance was called. I, my partner, and the midwife drove the 10 minutes to the hospital in our cars. (That’s where I got the epidural. It felt great.)

There are other types of emergencies that could be fatal for mum or baby if they occur outside a hospital, or even sometimes within one. If the umbilical cord emerges before the baby’s head, the head can press on the cord, cutting off the baby’s blood supply. If the placenta separates from the uterus before the baby is born, that’s another disastrous situation.

Both of these are one-in-10,000 risks. On the other hand, hospital interventions can lead to complications that are usually less severe, but far more common.

A Cochrane review, of hospital birth versus home birth for low-risk pregnancies, found that it couldn’t recommend either as a clear winner. Another Cochrane review found no difference between midwife care and standard care in serious outcomes like newborn deaths or hospitalisations. Women under midwife care had fewer interventions (like episiotomy or amniotomy) and were overall more satisfied with their care.

So, when it comes to choosing between a hospital and a birth centre, or a doctor and a midwife, you can’t choose a situation with no risk; you can only choose which type of risk you’re more comfortable with.

Midwives (and Birth Centres) Do Things Differently

At my most recent birth, I checked into the birth centre in the early evening, and the nurse asked if I’d had dinner. Since they encourage walking around while in labour, my husband and I placed a call to the nearby Spaghetti Warehouse (the centre keeps takeaway menus on hand for exactly this reason) and walked the four blocks to go pick up our lasagna. We chowed down, knowing that we both had a long night ahead of us.

At most hospitals, women in labour are told not to eat or drink anything. The standard fare is ice chips (to suck on). But midwives have been saying for years what a recent study confirmed: The rule against eating is outdated and unnecessary.

(Of course, I puked it all up when the contractions got really gut-wrenching, but it was great while it lasted.)

Midwives also tend to endorse walking and changing positions in labour, which can help move labour along and can either relieve pain or distract you from it (heck, you can whip/nae nae in labour if you’re coordinated enough).

Doctors are starting to catch on to some practices that have been standard with midwives for a while, like delayed cord clamping once the baby is born. It’s hard to generalise across all midwives versus all doctors, so these aren’t universal statements. If you’re trying to decide between a doctor and a midwife, call them and ask what their policies are.

How to Find a Midwife

A small fraction of births take place in birthing centres in Australia, around two per cent. Depending on where you live, a midwife may be hard to find and a birth centre harder still.

There are very few birth centres in Australia. You can search for a birth centre near you here.

Besides birth centres, some midwives practice at hospitals, and others do home births. You can search for a registered midwife here.

In the spirit of being an active participant in your care, your first step in choosing a midwife (or doctor) should be to read up on pregnancy, labour and birth, and decide what factors are important to you. Then, ask providers about those things specifically. Don’t be afraid to ask what percentage of their patients get C-sections, for example.

Since midwives don’t handle serious complications, you’ll want to ask a midwife what conditions they’re able to deal with. For example, if you’re having twins, or if you have gestational diabetes, or if you’ve had a C-section before but want to have a vaginal birth this time, some midwives will refer you to a doctor, while others might be able to include you in their practice. Here is a list of 10 good questions to ask a midwife or obstetrician. If you want to be thorough, this list of 47 questions gets into more detail. You probably won’t ask all of them, but it covers a lot of things you might not have otherwise thought of.

Cost is worth considering, too: Hospital births cost far more than births at home or, usually, in a birth centre. Insurance may cover some types of midwives but not others, or they may cover a midwife birth in a hospital but not in a birth centre. You’ll want to check your coverage for the midwife and the facility they practice in.

Midwife care isn’t for everyone, but if you’re low risk and you like making your own decisions, it’s an option worth considering. I’m really glad I did.


  • If you’re a public patient, hospital care for your pregnancy and birth is free. There are ways to have a midwife in the public system too – shared care with a community health centre or a midwife clinic at the hospital. Even home birth can be done with some hospitals. It’s not necessary to spend money to have the birth you want and this article would be more useful if it mentioned them.

  • Be smart, go to a doctor. We don’t give birth in the woods anymore either.

    • Couldn’t agree more! My wife is an obstetrician and the horror stories I hear / all the things that can go wrong. You really really want a doctor and spare blood handy! Not to mention that some of the Midwives she works with are ex-nurses who lost their jobs for malpractice or incompetence.
      Definitely taking your life into your own hands giving birth outside a hospital.

    • we gave birth at a public hospital using midwives.
      when my wife got to the hospital in labour we had already made a birth plan stating that we wanted to do a natural birth with no pethadine and no epidural.
      the doctor walked in about 30 minutes into us being in the hospital at midnight and said, ok, lets go, ill give you a pethadine for the pain, and we’ll get you on the table and give you a cesarean. my wife was mid contractions while he was saying this and the midwife chimed in and stuck up for my wife who couldnt speak for herself in that moment.

      we had another midwife present during the birth who was amazing, but there were doctors on hand should shit hit the fan.

      so, maybe be a little bit less narrow minded when you say ‘be smart, go to a doctor’

      im not advocating home births here, but its not a black and white situation.

  • I’m an anaesthetist, the guy who puts in the epidurals.

    There are many, many untruths in this article and overall it seemed like a description of the US health care system, so I was surprised to see Australian data quoted – and I think the data quoted is blatantly incorrect (Midwives attending only two percent of births in Australia? Bullshit!)

    The author is in fact, based in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania.

    None of this applies to childbirth in Australia. Midwives are responsible for delivering the vast majority of babies and midwife/doctor is NOT a binary decision – we are far more cooperative in Australia.

    Whoever has reposted a US article and done a find-and-replace, substituting ‘America’ for ‘Australia’ should be made to give birth to a 5kg baby with no pain relief.

    • Thanks for your input. The two per cent statistic was an error which we have since amended – two per cent of births in Australia take place in birthing centres, though midwives do attend births outside of said centres. We are currently looking into updating this article.

    • Indeed. I’m a physician, so been a while since I’ve done any obstetrics back in my residency, but it was certainly not a binary choice of midwife or obstetrician. Uncomplicated deliveries were mostly managed entirely by the midwives, or med students needing to get their catch quota up. Their outpatient sessions were also mostly managed by the midwives in uncomplicated cases. We just identify which patients are at higher risk and need more obstetric involvement. Some women even had midwifery students assigned to them throughout their pregnancy, attending pretty much everything pregnancy related that they did.

      The comment about eating during delivery seems a bit unusual to me. Yes if you’re uncomplicated you might benefit from not starving, but if you’re in a position where you may need an urgent caesarian you’re probably best off with an empty stomach to reduce aspiration risk. Although I’m aware similar research has been done in recent years regarding fasting times for other surgeries.

      The problem I find with this sort of article encouraging people away from any obstetric care is in the cases I’ve seen of women who completely shun medical involvement and have very risky births outside of hospital. Hell, some of the hospital midwives when I was a resident were very anti-doctor, which is strange for someone who works in a hospital. I’ve seen breach deliveries done at home with no obstetrician involvement and I think the midwives involved in high risk deliveries like this should probably face restrictions on their practice. I’ve seen numerous home births who have had previous caesarians which is pretty risky.

      Kotaku/Gizmodo/Lifehacker do a lot of copy/pasting off their American counterparts.

  • Most in-hospital births are conducted by midwives anyway.

    Obstetricians typically have a cursory input unless there are expected or encountered complications. And in the event of a complication, having an obstetrician, anaesthetist and theatre immediately on hand can be life saving (both for mother and baby).

    There have been a number of high-profile cases showing how easy it is to get things badly wrong such as: http://www.adelaidenow.com.au/news/south-australia/police-investigating-homebirth-advocate-lisa-barrett-over-deaths-of-five-newborn-babies/news-story/5ddc1504769c2b3b06fbd64734eb7da4?nk=f9c04de068abbb80a64b6a6efe9fec25-1469749830

    So, agree with Red Candle. Given how high the stakes are, just go with an in-hospital maternity unit. This is simply not something to gamble with.

  • “… They work with you to carefully consider all options instead of just “we’ve always done it this way.” There are other perks to midwife care, but this was the clincher for me…”

    Kind of an unfair generalisations to make I would have thought?

    Insisting that a midwife is going to give a better experience than a doctor is a pretty flawed argument. There are good doctors and bad midwives out there. Better advice would be to find who and what works for you…

  • Yeah, because hospital births are always safe ?

    It comes down to the skill and competence of the professional in question. Midwives can be bad (like the example you gave). So can obstetricians (e.g. link above).

    In many other countries home birth with expert midwife care is common. The vast majority of births proceed without complications, and the risk can be further minimised by antenatal checks (e.g. ultrasound checks for placenta previa, maternal hypertension, etc etc.). If risk factors are not present, why send women to give birth in an environment full of sick people? You just risk infecting mother or child with antibiotic resistant infections or other conditions.

    Despite what you might have heard, birth does not go catastrophically wrong instantly. Maternal haemorrhage or uterine rupture, for example, are serious conditions but allow ample time to attend a nearby hospital if needed. Which is rarely – because such events are < 1/1000 events. Midwives allow the birth to be monitored and transferred to hospital in the rare event of serious complications.

    The cost to the taxpayer and society is also a factor. Hospitals are expensive, obstetricians are expensive. We should do whatever we can to move non-serious conditions out of hospitals for economic reasons. Home birth with a qualified midwife (regular antenatal, birth and post-natal care) is significantly cheaper than the hospital model.

    • Well you’ve just described the model of care in Australia. Obstetric involvement to screen and determine risk, and handle higher risk cases in hospital. Choice of location for lower risk cases. Women may have in hospital if they wish, but not forced upon them.

      Although I don’t see in that article you linked that those deaths were because of unsafe obstetricians as you claim? They sacked the board of directors, said that it was a series of clinical and governance failures, and given this was a low risk centre, a large proportion of those deliveries were probably handled by midwives….. They did put restrictions on the obestrician who was the department director. The specific clinical failures they give involved misuse of foetal heart rate monitors and say that the staff lacked ‘quality education’ and had ‘inadequate skills’. Again it doesn’t specify that this was medical staff, but given again this is a low risk centre and the specific tool they reference is largely applied and observed by the nurses/midwives I would assume that these poorly trained staff were more likely midwives than obstetricians.

      But yes I take your point that you can get unsafe care in hospitals too. Although given our overall perinatal mortality rate is close to the lowest in the world (2/1000, the lowest countries are 1/100), and continues to fall, I’d say overall our model of care is doing some things pretty right, even when terrible cases like this occur.

  • If you have an uncomplicated pregnancy I guess you can do what you like. But I would want there to be an emergency maternity unit close by in case of complications during birth.

    These sorts of services are only available to people who are uncomplicated anyway though.

  • Couldn’t agree less. We had both our boys with midwives (but birthed in public hospitals). If anything even slightly complicated happened a doctor was available. We certainly weren’t in the woods. We used a midwifery practice that was associated with a hospital, had scans and ultrasounds etc., just no doctor. Obstetricians will tell you horror stories of course, but often things just go right.
    Wouldn’t do it at home though, the room looked like a crime scene afterwards.

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