The Science Behind Why A Wingman Can Help Get You A Date

If sitcoms have taught us anything (besides how to make terrible life choices), it's that a wingman can help when you're trying to get a date. This video explains how this strategy actually helps both men and women. As it turns out, humans aren't the only species to use the wingman strategy. As the video states, turkeys, fireflies and even lance tailed manakins all use a form of strategy where a group works together to get a mate for an individual. Sorry, Tom Cruise, but you didn't invent this one.

So, why does it help? For starters, individuals tend to look more attractive when in a group. Being with other people demonstrates camaraderie, which is a healthy trait in social beings like us. For men, having a wingman not only makes you look better by default, but your buddy can also prop you up as an "alpha", or more attractive option. Not to be confused with the sleazy "alpha male" tripe that many unsavoury self-help books try to push, mind you. This scenario merely lets one man take the driver's seat while the other rides shotgun. In this metaphor, driving is sexy. As a side benefit, the video also points out that the wingman also often ends up learning from the "alpha", thus helping them get better at finding a date in the long-term as well. It's a win-win!

Women can also use the wingman strategy, however as the video points out, this often means using your partners to help deflect potential mates. It's no secret that women face a tough time turning down partners in the dating scene (an understatement to say the least). As the video above points out, a wingwoman can help make sure that less desirable guys stay away.

The video also notes that, quite unfortunately, most research on this strategy focuses on heterosexual couples, and human dating is a bit more complex than turkeys or fireflies. None of this should be taken to mean that you have to use one particular strategy. Women can pursue men with this strategy and men can use their partners to deflect unwanted advances if necessary. However, it's still a fascinating look into how this strategy works.

Does Having A "Wingman" Actually Help You Get A Date? [ASAP Science]


    I think you got mixed up on this part:
    "Men can pursue women with this strategy and women can use their partners to deflect unwanted advances if necessary."

    It worked against me on a cruise i went on a few years ago. I took a collegue on a cruise as I had a friend pull out last minute. we were pretty chumy at work and it seemed a perfect fit ,etc. There was no romantic connection there just mates (she was a bit of a tom boy too). Anyways We shared a room of course and various women on the cruise saw us together: eating and returning to the same room ,etc. So when it came time to pursue some potential mates on said cruise some woman automatically though i was cheating on my gf.... this rumor spread (fairly quickly as the small demographic that went out clubbing on the cruise ship). So i was then known as that guy with a gf that likes to flirt with other woman :( so In this case it REALLY backfired. of course on the flipside she had no problems finding a bloke to hookup with as well guys don't really give a shit ,etc. Anyways just think about it before you take a wingman/wingwoman along anywhere. maybe the wingwoman never works? I dunno thoughts?

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