Good conversation has a natural back and forth like a game of tennis. That pleasant flow comes to a grinding halt, however, when you stop to try and clear up all of the unnecessary details.
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If you're looking for a simple way to refine your gift of gab, Celeste Headlee, host of Georgia Public Broadcasting's On Second Thought, suggests you always ditch the details and keep things moving. The last thing you want to do is derail the topic of conversation by trying to pinpoint small bits of information like names, dates, and other tiny details that don't play an important role in your story or discussion. Headlee explains that the listener cares more about you and what you're like — not the actual events or things you're describing. They're looking for what they have in common with you so they can relate. If you forget the details, leave them out and keep on talking.
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