Humans are complicated. Sometimes we do things that make zero sense yet still seem perfectly reasonable to us on an emotional level. For example, many of us have a habit of automatically blaming things our partner, spouse or significant other. This video from School of Life explains why. Most of us have some experience with this. You're frustrated at something, and even though your partner has nothing to do with it, you take it out on him or her. The School of Life explains why this happens:
We get furious with our partners because we assign them such a deep role in our lives. We have faith that a person who understands obscure parts of us, whose presence solves so many of our problems couldn't also be someone who couldn't fix our whole lives.
As the video explains, this is a primitive habit that assumes the other person has more power than they actually do.
Of course, sometimes your partner will make actual mistakes. And sometimes those mistakes lead to a relationship that is downright unhealthy. That's a different story entirely, and this shouldn't be used as a justification to stay in a bad relationship.
It's just about our tendency to automatically blame a significant other when something goes wrong. And understanding that habit can help you better manage it. Check out the full video above or at the link below.
Why We Love to Blame Our Partners [The School of Life]