Video: Breakups are tough, but they’re also the perfect time to start fresh. The “must have-can’t stand” exercise can help you move on with a clean slate and avoid any past mistakes.
In this video from the TechInsider YouTube channel, dating expert Andrea Syrtash, author of He’s Just Not Your Type (And That’s a Good Thing): How to Find Love Where You Least Expect It, suggests a breakup is a perfect time to re-evaluate what you really want in a relationship. Making a “must have-can’t stand” list will help you move on, look to the future, and help you reflect on your deepest values. List five things you must have in a potential partner and five things you can’t stand. Go deep with each item on your list so you’re not closing yourself off from possibilities. Don’t write “my future partner must have brown hair, blue eyes, and so on”. Go with something more open like “my future partner must be attractive”. While you’re fleshing out your “can’t stand” list, look back on your exes and see if there’s a pattern you should avoid in the future.
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