At time of writing my wife is eight and a half months pregnant with our second child. We still don’t have a baby name. Correction: we have two baby names. It’s taken us almost the entirety of my wife’s pregnancy to round our choices down to two names. Here’s what I’ve learned along the way.
Keep A Shortlist
I found this super helpful. Every time I thought of a name, or something close to a name I liked, I added it to my little shortlist. Make it a Google doc or equivalent – just so you can easily add to it wherever you are.
Tidy Up The Shortlist Frequently
I found it valuable to delete from the list. Show it to your significant other – if there are names he or she hates, just get rid of them, because they’ll cloud your judgement and you want a name that works for both of you.
Don’t Discuss Your Shortlist With Others
Especially your family. Seriously.
The amount of times I’ve mentioned a name to friends or parents only for them to say URGH I HATE IT.
Who cares. It doesn’t matter what they think. That will never matter. They’ll find out the name when the baby is born and they can just pretend to like it.
Check Popular Name Lists
You want to do this for a couple of reasons.
Firstly, to get ideas. Maybe there’s a popular name out there that you like?
But for me, checking popular name lists are a good way to find out where your tastes are at and where you lie on that spectrum.
Because here’s the deal: we’re all part of the zeitgeist. A name that sounds super unique to you might actually be insanely popular and you don’t even know it. I liked the name Noah. I’ve never met anyone called Noah. But that’s because I don’t hang out with newborn babies. Noah is actually one of the most popular baby names out there. Same goes for names like Levi!
That’s right. Levi is a super popular name right now. You just never know.
You Might Never Find The Perfect Name
One of the reasons my wife and I have taken so long to choose is this: I think we’re both waiting for that perfect name to drop in our laps.
The name where we both go YES! THAT’S THE ONE.
If you’re lucky, that might happen. But it probably won’t. Your name will probably be chosen after months of…
“Do you like this?”
“No I hate it. What about this”
“Oh my god that’s horrible.”
Eventually if you’re lucky, you might find a name you both kinda like.
And on that note…
Be Willing To Compromise
If your significant other hates your weird-arse dream name, you might just have to save it for your next lifetime.
Anyone else have any tips? How did you choose your children’s names? Let us know in the comments.