'The Secret To Being Liked Is To Like Other People'

Everyone wants to be liked, but some people are more immediately likeable than others, it seems. The secret to getting people to like you: Like other people.

Glennon Doyle Melton describes on Momastery an outing with her girls to visit cats at the Humane Society. There was one kitten in particular everyone was drawn to, and the reason is pretty simple: The kitten seemed to like the girls and came up to them wanting to play.

Though not a direct quote, the secret to being liked is to like other people:

I really, really think the secret to being loved is to love. And the secret to being interesting is to be interested. And the secret to having a friend is being a friend.

Why don't we want to believe that? We insist that we need to be the smartest kitten or the most interesting kitten or the most successful kitten or the most beautiful kitten to get people's attention. But maybe we don't. Maybe we just have to show a little interest . Maybe the surest way to be liked by people is simply to like people.

This isn't to say you have to become a schmoozing extrovert or you should fake interest. But don't be afraid of taking the first step.

The Secret to Being Liked [Momastery]


    From experience (in particular a recent one), I can say that this isn't true. Showing a genuine interest in someone does not guarantee that your affection or friendship will be reciprocated. I think it is far more important to learn how to be content, and confident with yourself. People of this nature have a kind of energy about them that eventually attracts the right kind of company.

    Just my $0.02..

Join the discussion!

Trending Stories Right Now