In the comments section to our recent guide to cunnlingus, many of you talked about the fact that different women like different things when it comes to oral. Of course, what works for one person won’t necessarily work for another, so it’s important to get feedback from your partner about what they like. Today we want to talk about how you go about getting that input.
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There’s almost universal agreement that asking for feedback is important. At the same time, you’ve got to start somewhere when you’re being intimate with someone! Having your partner say, “Hey, I’d like to go down on you right now, but first tell me exactly what you want me to do to you” doesn’t exactly sound appealing. (Or maybe it does?) It’s easier to tell someone what you like when you have a frame of reference, or things to compare (“faster”, “to the left” or “don’t you dare stop doing that!”)
How do you get feedback from your partners? Are you more explicit or implicit? How does your approach for first-time partners different from your approach for a long-term partner? Let us know below!