My ex left me three years ago. We have now been divorced for two years. Until recently I have heard nothing from him but now he wants his stuff back. What should I do? Honestly, I do not want him here. Thanks, Un-Ex-cited
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We're not lawyers, but our assumption is that you have no legal obligation here -- presumably, any major assets were divided when the divorce was finalised two years ago. It's not reasonable to expect you to hold onto the rest of his junk indefinitely in the off-chance that he might one day return to claim it.
With that said, you probably don't want an angry ex on your back. If you still have his things, maybe arrange to have them dropped off with a third party? That way you won't have to deal with him and everyone is happy.
Before you do this, it's a good idea to check whether his name is still attached to your property, either as a tenant or homeowner. If so, you're not supposed to remove his possessions without permission, even though he isn't living there. (Rubbish and perishable items are excepted.)
If you're planning to chuck out his stuff, definitely notify him first — preferably by email so there’s an electronic record of your correspondence. If he fails to get back to you, most states and territories allow you to dispose of the items after 14 days.
You can find out what your specific rights are in regards to unclaimed property in each state via the following links:
- NSW: NSW Fair Trading, Tenants NSW
- Victoria: Consumer Affairs Victoria, Tenants Union Of Victoria
- Queensland: Residential Tenancies Authority, Tenants' Union Of Queensland
- WA: Department Of Commerce, Tenants Advice Service
- SA: SA.gov.au, Tenants Information And Adovacy Service
- Tasmania: Consumer Affairs And Fair Trading, Tenants' Union Of Tasmania
- NT: Consumer Affairs, Tenants' Advice Service
- ACT: ACT Government, Tenants' Union Of ACT
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