Anyone in a relationship occasionally fights, whether it's with your significant other, kids, or parents. We don't intend it — it just happens. Finding the "choice Points" during the discussion keep the fights from escalating further.
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Once the discussion moves into a fight, think about your next response. Recognise that you don't have to follow the same patterns as before. Psychology Today explains:
Notice that every conversation contains multiple Choice Points. Like forks in the road, Choice Points are reminders that you don't have to go with the automatic response generated by your Chimp brain.
...Faced with Choice Points, you still have to decide which road to go down. You can resolve which to take by asking yourself: 'What's important to me in this conversation?'
Look for those physical signs of stress: they will cue you in that the conversation has moved in the wrong direction, and it's time to reconsider your next action. Check out the link for other tips on de-escalating arguments.
How to Stop Having Disagreements That Ruin Your Day [Psychology Today]