It’s only natural to want to surround yourself with people who believe in you. If you only allow people with positive things to say to get close, however, can result in choosing your friends based on how they make you feel, rather than ones who challenge you to improve.
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As personal finance writer and entrepreneur Luke Landes explains on Consumerism Commentary, the people who disagree with you are essential to improving. Shutting them out is a natural, yet damaging self-selection process that removes any useful criticism or feedback. By only listening to the people who tell you what you want to hear, no one tells you what you need to hear:
This is a result of the “positive posse” approach. When you have no tolerance for dissent, you encourage the people closest to you to be “yes-men.” If your closest advisers (or for non-politicians, closest friends) are afraid to bring you bad news or identify opportunities for improvement, you will continue to operate without much change or adaptation. Adaptation is one of the single most important factors for long-term success.
Having emotional support is essential, but it’s important to realise when you’ve crossed the line from an encouraging group of friends or colleagues into a self-absorbed bubble. Disagreement can be beneficial and feedback, when presented constructively, is an invaluable tool.
How Your Positive Posse is Destroying You [Consumerism Commentary]