Become A Better Listener By Responding, Not Reacting

Become a Better Listener by Responding, Not Reacting

They might seem like one and the same, but responding and reacting in a conversation are very different when you break them down. If you want to practise being a better listener, responding is the better course of action.

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Reacting when someone hasn't finished their thought means you could end up interrupting or even saying something you regret. Kathy Rapp at Inc. suggests it's always better to respond instead:

Respond, don't react. I love this mantra and keep it top of mind, especially when I know I'm about to hear bad news or something that could upset me. It's perfectly normal to want to spout out the first thing that hits your mind, but in most cases you're better off to take a second to digest the content of what you've just heard.

Even if something greatly upsets you -- or excites you -- blurting out the first thing that comes to your mind doesn't make it seem like you're listening. Instead, it makes it seem like you were waiting to pounce on the first sign of trouble. Listen, let them finish their thought, ask clarifying questions, and -- after you've really thought about what you want to say -- calmly express yourself. People like it when they think they're being listened to, so it can only benefit you.

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Comments

    My wife is the only person I know that can do this effectively. She'll stop and deal with a situation rationally and when it's all under control then allow herself to fall apart if it's warranted. It has allowed her (and as a side-effect me) to deal with extremely difficult situations effectively and get the possible outcome even if the options are all bad. It's a hard skill to master but ultimately worth while.

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