Relationships take work, most people understand that. However, if you want that relationship to go the distance, keep an eye out for your partner’s “emotional bids” or calls to you for support. Respond, and your relationship has much higher odds of long-term success, according to these psychologists.
The video above, from the folks at DNews, explains what we mean specifically by “emotional bids”, and how psychologists John and Julie Gottman (and, yes, they’re married) managed to find out that how partners respond to those bids for support — as simple as “Hey, come with me while I go here” or “Check this out, look at this,” — are one of the biggest determining factors of whether a couple will stick together or split up. They also discuss how wrong the old myth that half of all marriages end in divorce actually is (the truth is it’s closer to 20 per cent to 25 per cent), and they offer a few extra tips for keeping your relationship healthy.
In short, much of the key is paying attention to each other, a little self-sacrifice, and being calm and collected when you discuss your partner and any issues you have with your relationship. Watch the full video above, or check out the description at YouTube below for more reading.
The Secret to a Successful Relationship [YouTube]
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