It’s easy to second-guess if breaking up is the right thing to do or if you should work through your relationship’s issues. Picturing your partner happy with someone else might shed light on if you’re ready to let go.
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Lucy Animus suggests at Elephant Journal that you should imagine your significant other being happy with someone else, and see how that makes you feel. This tests if you’re still checked-in to your relationship and can work with your partner to improve, or if you’re in fact just postponing a breakup:
As a test, try to imagine him happy with someone else. Do you experience a strange union of extreme dismay lined with a glimmer of instant relief? If so, it’s another sign that this thing may not be what it seems. Though when it does finally happen and you see him with someone else, the pain will be real, and your mind is likely to chide you. But if you maintain connection with the small voice of your heart, you’ll pull through.
This shouldn’t be the end-all solution to your problem. There are plenty of steps you should take to determine whether it’s time to let go, but this could be a helpful litmus test. Lucy has a few more suggestions at the link below.
How to Tell if you’re Postponing a Breakup. [Elephant Journal]