Humility May Make You More Attractive To Other People

Humility May Make You More Attractive to Other People

Humility can be a positive trait, but it's not just a matter of virtue. A good dose of humility can make you more attractive to others, and help you maintain those romantic relationships.

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A series of experiments, published in The Journal of Positive Psychology revealed that people found potential partners with higher humility more attractive than those with low humility scores.

One study showed a small sample of respondents dating profiles with varying levels of humility based on a computer assessment. Participants were more likely to share their profiles and phone numbers with the highly humble potential partner than the less humble dating partner. The sample sizes for the experiments were small, but they still tell us a lot.

For example, one of the experiments in the study showed that individuals with high humility reported lower levels of unforgiveness (as in, their partners were more likely to forgive and overlook mistakes) in long-distance relationships. Individuals with low humility reported significantly higher levels of unforgiveness in long-distance relationships. Either way, humility was a crucial factor in maintaining those relationships smoothly.

All in all, a little humility goes a long way. You can still showcase your best traits while being humble. Doing so will help you appeal to new people, meet them and start a relationship, and keep that relationship healthy for the long term.

Social benefits of humility: Initiating and maintaining romantic relationships [The Journal of Positive Psychology via Useful Science]


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    It should be noted that humility is NOT putting yourself down, it is NOT low self-esteme. It is about being comfortable with who you are and not needing to forever blow your own horn; being able to genuinely think of others without a continual self-obsession.

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