We’ve all been in an argument and said things we regret. If you’re prone to this, consider emailing your spouse or partner.
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Psychology Today suggests that sometimes email is good for cooling tempers and encouraging rational thought:
Being too reactive in an argument, getting heated quickly, having facial expressions that instantly shift from calm to irate, makes it very difficult to have a productive discussion. Arguing via email allows the reactive partner(s) to take a breath, calm down, and be more reflective before responding. It also allows them to reread what their partner wrote and be more likely to respond to their actual points or concerns.
Couples should talk things over in person when possible, but when that’s not productive, an email might be just the tool to get off on the right foot. You’ll get to say everything on your mind without the other person getting defensive or interrupting. Don’t go to bed angry — go to bed after sending an email.
Check the link for the times emailing may help some couples.
Why Some Couples Should Argue Via Email and Not In Person [Psychology Today]