Nothing puts people off more than desperation and inauthenticity. You don’t want to choose what you do in life and who you spend your time with based on a desire to be liked.
Author and entrepreneur James Altucher suggests you’ll be more productive if you just do nothing.
Do nothing when you want to be liked. How many times have I gone to a meeting? Taken a trip abroad? Made stupid investments? Written an article? Done did doing does? Just so someone would like me: a mother, a father, a friend, a reader, an investor, a customer, a stranger. Answer: a lot of times. Too many times. And it works. I put in the input (flattery, attention, false love) and get out the output (false love back). And continue to live the illusion in search of the dream, in avoidance of the nightmare, ignorant of the reality. Do I make any money this way? Do I feel a sense of accomplishment? In my 25 years of business: Never.
Don’t waste your time on falsehoods. It isn’t productive. Do what matters to you as much as you can and avoid wasting time on things that you think you should do to be liked by others. There’s no reason you can’t do things to help others, but only so long as that’s the motivation and not a desire for their affection or praise.