You might know how to achieve your goals, but that doesn’t mean your goals are right for you in the first place. Take some time to rethink your objectives based on how you want to feel at the end of it, not what you want to achieve or accomplish, advises Danielle LaPorte, author of The Desire Map,>.
By realigning your goals to the desired feeling, you gain better depth and perspective, she says. In a talk with Marie Forleo captured on the video above, LaPorte expanded on four steps to figure out your core desired feelings:
1. Feel What Feels Good: Ask yourself how you want to feel in lifestyle, body and wellness, relationships and society, and write stream of consciousness lists for each.
2. Look For Patterns: Identify the words you repeat in these lists, or notice the patterns that are coming up.
3. Declare Your Core Desired Feelings: Ask yourself what’s beneath a feeling for you. For example, maybe “success” is really about freedom, or love, or creativity.
4. Ask Yourself: What do I want to do, have or experience to create my core desired feelings?
The full video goes into further detail about each of these steps, with some cool examples to illustrate the ideas, so check it out.
Goal Setting [Marie Forleo]