Communicate Better With Your Significant Other With These 10 Rules

Communicate Better With Your Significant Other With These 10 Rules

No matter how smart you think you are, communicating with your significant other is never easy. According to The Wall Street Journal you can improve your communication with just a few tips.

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The idea here is that men and women communicate a little differently:

When you are listening

  • Don’t think about what you are going to say next while the other person is talking.
  • Ask follow-up questions. This demonstrates that you care.
  • Consider how the other person wants you to respond.

When you are speaking

  • Don’t give advice until asked.
  • Try to identify some of your emotions and take a chance: Express them!

When you are listening

  • Don’t get upset if the other person seems curt, especially in email or text. This can be simply a matter of style.
  • Draw someone out with empathic guesses. ‘I imagine you were frustrated.’
  • Be calm, so the other person feels it is safe to share emotions.

When you are speaking

  • Edit your story. Pare down emotion and give only essential details. Perhaps prepare bullet points.
  • Tell him how you want him to respond. ‘More than advice, I need you to just listen.’

It’s a simple set of communication guidelines and if nothing else should give you the time to work through those miscommunications a little more cleanly. Head over to The Wall Street Journal for a few more tips.

Relationship Talking Points: Speak Your Spouse’s Language [The Wall Street Journal]


  • I struggle with the not giving advice until I’m asked….my day job is basically people coming to me with problems and me giving them 1 to about 5 different solutions………

  • Blend the two sets together and you have a better set of rules that applies equally to both genders. As it stands now, there is an implied expectation that each gender will behave in a distinct & unique way. This is a form of sexism, and is unfair to both. The reality is that men sometimes do what women do, and women sometimes do what men do.

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