Dear Lifehacker, My boyfriend just got demoted, and I was wondering how I could make him feel better, and help him re-transition easier into his old job so that it’s not so stressful for him? Any hints? Thanks, Demotion Derby
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You can find all the advice you need on cheering up your boyfriend here.
Kidding aside, it sounds like he needs to look at the wider picture and gain some perspective. In today’s economic climate, various industries are looking to clean house in a bid to stay in the black. This means that demotions, redundancies and involuntary pay cuts are practically becoming standard practice. At least he’s still employed.
Try to convince your boyfriend that the demotion was likely the result of company restructuring rather than his work performance. This might not necessarily be true, but he’ll be happier believing an explanation in which he is largely blameless.
That said, crawling back to an inferior position in front of existing colleagues can’t be great for one’s self-esteem. It might be time for your fella to start looking for employment elsewhere. You can help your boyfriend by reviewing his resume and assisting in updates — there are plenty of useful tips on resume creation in our careers section.
Above all, remember that your main job should be to lend a sympathetic ear instead of trying to take over and fix the problem. Likewise, try to cut the guy a bit of slack when it comes to those small irritations that you usually bite his head off for. Don’t nag. (Before we get cries of sexism, we would apply the same advice to the male partner in a relationship.)
If you find nothing is working, it could be more than just a case of being down in the dumps. Click here for some advice on dealing with depression in people who are close to you.
We’d also like to throw this question open to our readers. Have you ever had to help an unemployed or unhappy partner get back on their feet? What kind of advice worked best? Was there anything that backfired horribly? Let DD know in the comments section below.
See also: Five Ways To Improve Your Outlook On Life.
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