Dear Lifehacker, I’m picking up some attraction signals from a girl who I feel is way out of my league. She could easily get much better-looking guys, so why me? It sounds terrible to say, but I really don’t want to be lead on. Any advice? Thanks, Romance Realist
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Pics or it didn’t happen.
Seriously though, it could be that you’re selling yourself short. As the old adage goes: “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder” — perhaps this comely vixen sees something in you that you don’t see in yourself? There’s oodles of advice on our website that can help with boosting confidence and a sense of self-worth; it sounds like you could do with a bit of both!
Recent behavioral studies have also shown that the traditional “attractive” male traits (i.e. — strength and testosterone) are actually considered a turnoff by a large swathe of women in developed countries. So if you’re a slight and sensitive pencil-pusher, perhaps that works in your favour.
On the other hand, she could just be toying with you like a mouse that she intends to devour and then discard. Either way, our advice is to stick around and see what happens next!
Have any other readers dated anyone out of their league? Share your tips and experiences with RR in the comments section below.
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